Who would you choose??

Who would you Choose your man or your family, my name is Jenny and I have been with my man for over 2 and half years and my parents really didn’t give him the benefit of the doubt to get to know him. So now I have to figure out whether I should dump him or listen to what my parents are saying about him. He isn’t a horrible person everyone has problems in their relationships I just don’t understand why they would make me choose them over him he is a sweetheart he has done a lot for me and we do have our times of being happy and not he doesn’t want to lose me and I don’t want to lose him. My parents also think that he is controlling my life and making it hard for me to make life long decisions. I need some advice on what I should do.

Answer #1

You are definately old enough to decide who you want to date. Talk to your parents and tell them that it’s unfair of them to put you in the middle. Ask them why they think that he’s controlling and ask them for any other reasons why they don’t like him. Listen to their reasons, understand their reasons, and accept their reasons. They don’t have to like every man that you date but they should at least try to get to know him for your benefit. Ask them if they would “please” give him a chance, ask them to get to know him, ask them to try to understand what you’re feeling.

I guess what I’m saying is talk to them in a calm rational voice like an adult and respect what they say. If you do this for them, they would also do this for you.

I don’t think I could of ever made this kind of decision. My parents raised me and taught me to respect them (not that I listenend to them all the time), but it would of been very hard to turn my back on them and choose my boyfriend.

Do what you have to, just be prepared for the consequences.

Good luck

Answer #2

I think you need to make a list, an HONEST list. One column his GOOD qualities, and the other column his BAD qualities. Then honestly consider what your parents say about him, is it remotely true? If yes or no, now consider why they think or say the things they do about him. There must be some reason behind it, they didn’t just make it up out of the blue, did they? Then, if the BAD qualities are things that are not serious, talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you both have to be mature and sit down with your parents. Agree that in conversating with your parents you may still disagree but agree to disagree and move on. Let your parents know you would like to have a sit down to discuss why they feel the way they do about him. If they refuse to do the sit down with both of you then tell them you are trying to understand their views and if they are not mature enough to sit down and put it out on the table then you cannot understand their point of view. Then, and only then should you take on the burden of choosing between family and him.

Answer #3

Believe me it wasn’t any easy thing getting the annulment it was simply because neither one of us was ready to be married six months into our relationship. Its because there were times that he would just drop me off when we were in a fight I would stay with my parents off and on just to give each other space. We are going to go to counseling thats for sure and I know it is going to clear everything up.

Answer #4

Sounds like your dad is being harsh about his views on your boyfriend. I don’t know all the details, but it seems like there is more of a reason as to why your parents may not like your boyfriend? I mean no parent wants to see their kid run off to get married and then shortly later have an annullement but why really does your dad not like your boyfriend aside fr that incident?

Whose idea was the annulement? I think there is no rush to get married. If you can stay together and have a wonderful realationship without being married, now that I think is much harder!

Answer #5

You see they are upset because we got an annulment too soon into our relationship because we had gone out to Vegas and got married and now they are using that and other information as an excuse to not like him when they really didn’t give him a chance. My father said to him he doesn’t care if my man drops dead and that really made me angry, what would you ladies do about that?

Answer #6

I have the same problem, I chose my boyfriend because my family was very in supportive and so is his it makes our relationship harder but in a way stronger as we have been through a lot and always fight and threaten to leave and we haven’t yet. My advice to you is to see where your relationship is going and if your happy, and if your family will forgive you for ditching them over your guy, if the answer is no keep your family, as family is always there sadly sometimes guy are not.

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