who thinks this is meant to be?

so yea this girl (Ashley) we go sorta back ( I think a year or 2 ). we dated a couple of times blah blah. I told her I loved her before ( sometime I feel as if this a mistake) if you asking urself why then the answer is simple. She is obessed with me seriously I can deal with that ( I hope). But we had our personal problem mine was the fact of she being so depress (no joke). almost everyday I would help her do something ect. her problem with me was and still is that I don’t talk a lot. I got my reasons for this I told her I only talk when I need to or if am in a good mood. Am not a very outgoing person and there was other problem BUT on the up side. My family like her and her family like me ( I guess) and we made a good couple I think ect… so am talking to her tonight and I told her I sorta love her still (< I feel as I made a mistake maybe not :D )… (oh yea sorry but anothe personal problem of mine was that ( not trying to be mean). but she my height ( am pretty tall) and she a little big so I was afraid of what peoples would think?)

so I need some help with this ? ( sorry if I messed up somewhere am in a big of a rush tonight but thank)

Answer #1

I’m a firm believer that people should not need to make major changes in themselves for another person. Small changes are fine, but if a person can’t accept you for who you actually are, then there’s really no point to it. Love does not consist of completely changing a partner to suit your needs - love is accepting them exactly as they are.

So I guess that brings me to my opinion here. You need to figure out whether or not you can accept this girl for the person she is. Does it really matter to you what other people may think? Is her depression a huge issue you for? Is her clingyness (or whatever you mean by “obsession”) something you would be okay with?

If there are things that you’re really not comfortable with, considering them before getting together with her would be for the best. If there are things you can’t look past or work on, perhaps getting back together may not be such a good idea.

Answer #2

Well…the fact that she’s tall and a little big…and you’re afraid of what others think…that’s superficial…and something for you to work on…do you like her, or not??

However, your problem with her depression…and the fact that she can be obsessed…those are real relationship problems. The fact that she wants you to talk more, when it’s not your nature…is another real relationship problem. Love is accepting the other person…warts and all…

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Answer #3

why do you date big girls if your embarrassed of themm! im thinn and happy i wouldnt date a biger guy but i wouldnt because i know i wouldnt like them in that way no matter what so you need to think alittle

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