Am I being used?

Ok I need help.the problem is theres this boy who I met and from the moment I met him I’ve been crazy about him I just love him so much and its been 5 months now and he still aint my boyfriend.we always kiss and hug and other stuff but he really wants me 2 have sex with him and he says hes not gona pressure me into it but I feel like I want 2 do it but if I do then hes just gona forget about me and never tlk 2 me again so am I being used?what shuld I do?how can I make him love me?is gettin pregnant the answer?please write back people asap

Answer #1

You think that if you have sex with him he will finally commit to you? Hes already said no to going out with you, so is there something that your just not getting? When a boy wants you sexually, but doesnt want to date you, it means he is using you!

Before you get involved, before you give your heart to a guy, before you become completely infatuated with a man, step back and ask yourself if you are a priority or an option in the guy’s life.

If you are just an option, take note! Realize that you are most likely one of many, someone available for fun, and the guy is not in the relationship for the long term.

Better to be honest and clear than find yourself with a broken heart down the road.

How to Tell if a guy is Using You How can a girl tell if a guyis just using her?

My first response is, if you are asking, you are probably feeling used. And if you are feeling used you are probably being used.

There is a significant difference for most men between wanting a woman for a plaything, and wanting a real, healthy, mature relationship.

The two should not be confused. Does the guy show care and respect for you? Or are you a convenience?

Do your conversations center around life, ideas, interesting thoughts?

Do you have a great time together when there is no physical activity going on?

Do you feel cared for and cherished for being who you are? Or do you feel you are only valued for what you do for the guy?

Is the guy interested in your goals, your dreams, your hopes? Or is the relationship pretty much centered on his needs?

Do you feel in your heart that you are valued as a human being? Or do you feel your value comes from the guys expectations?

Many women hold the mistaken idea that if a man wants to have sex with them, the guy must love them or at least like them. Not so.

If you find yourself feeling desperate for a guy, notice what it is you are truly wanting in life, find it in yourself.

Answer #2

Sweetie, there are plenty of other ways besides getting pregnant to make something work. It sounds like this person may not be the one for you if you feel the need to make a drastic change to your life to make him want to be with you. Let him go, and find someone true to you. It may be hard, but in the end, you’ll be thankful you did it. :)

Answer #3

If you feel that he really wouldn’t talk to you again after that, that means he must’ve done something to make you not able to trust him. Yes you’re being used.

And tips for the future, when you act sprung off of someone, they will use you no matter how nice they are.

I use people who are overly nice so I know this for a fact.

Answer #4

firstly pregnancy will cause him to leave you and ignore you. secondly dont give him sex esspecially since he hasn’t asked you out and he says he wants it. that is being used so dont. if he didn’t want you for sex then he would actually act like it instead of avoid everything but sex.

Answer #5

Oh lord, first off, do NOT get pregnant. Getting pregnant is not the answer. It’s not going to make someone love you or want to be with you more. Have you guys ever talked about being a couple? Have you ever asked him out. If you guys talked about it and he dismissed the idea of being with you, then ditch him. He’s using you. And you deserve so much better than that, you really do. If you haven’t then before you choose to have sex with him, I think you should talk to him and tell him that you want more from him than just messing around.

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