What to do about this girl?

So I got this girl problem. This may be a bit long but maybe some of you can help me. So there is this girl that I met online about a 1.5 years ago we are long distance but we have gotten very very close and became best friends. The thing is I have very strong feelings for her. Now we have dated about 4 different times, but each time we date, we date for about 2 weeks and than she tells me she is losing her feelings for me and we break up( I thinking that this might also be because of the distance but I dunno)and I am willing always travel there or to move there) but this last time we dated for 2 months and it seemed we were getting really serious. She had told me her feelings were strong, that I was perfect and that she loved me, and I felt exactly the same about her. So I decided to make a trip to go meet up and visit with her. Now when I see someone new for the first time I get kinda very shy, quiet and nervous and dont really act myself, it takes me a while to find like my comfort zone. So when I went there thats what happend , I was very quiet and nervous and didnt act myself. But while I was there it didnt seem to go all that bad, we got along, we cuddled, kissed, and even had sex a couple of times. Now when I left and got home she was still telling me she loved me and that her feelings got so much stronger. Untill a couple days later where she told me she was loosing her feelings again and that being with me, since I was quiet and stuff she realized I wasnt her type so she broke up with me. Now I tried explaining to her that I was being queit and not acting myself because I was nervous, and I asked her if we will ever get back together and she said maybe but she cant predict the future. Now I do keep hoping she does come back because after all she has came back to me a couple times before. She loves me for who I am over the phone and I wanna show her thats who I really am in real person, the unnervous and real me and not the one she saw when I was there and nervous.now there is a bit of an age difference im 22 she is 16 and I personnaly dont see a problem with that, but sometimes I wonder if its just her age that she doesnt know exactly what she wants at the moment? Because deep down I believe she is the most perfect girl ever for me, everything I could possibly ask for in a girl she has, I would do anything and everything for her and my feelings are very strong and I love her to death. But am I just wasting my time? Should I try and wait for her or should I try to move on?

Answer #1

thanks for your answer but how is it a turn off if a guy likes you to much? wouldnt you want a guy that likes you a lot, likes you for you, cares and loves you, trust worthy to you, always there for you, willing to do everything and anything for you? always wanting to make you happy and smile? never forcing you into things, respects your opionion, with also still giving you your own space and not controling you? how is that a turn off??

Answer #2

hey well the age thing isn’t that big a deal if you both love each other but it seem’s like she isn’t that into u. I am a girl and the biggest turnn off is if a guy like’s you too much you need to remeber she is only 16 and probs doesn’t know what she want’s or what love is. sorry to tell you this but maybe you should just move on hope this helped a little

Answer #3

Ok, so first of all you shouldn’t be dating a 16 year old if you’re 22. She’s going to want other boys in her own grade. And honestly, if she’s that on and off with you, you shouldn’t waste your time. Because maybe one day she’d want to marry you and then after you’re married she won’t like you and you’ll get a devorce. I hope this helped!!!

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