What should I do about sexual encounters and my small breasts?

Im 19 and I have really small breasts think - size 75a (34a) - only fill them out when theres padding though. Its impossible for me to get a cleavage unless I wear an extreme push -up and even then its hard cause theres nothing to push up.

Heres the deal - many people have told me Im pretty. (skinny, petite, really blond hair, blue eyes) And I’m into fashion and dress really well. And now I do get a lot of male attention, espcially as a European at an American college. Guys like me and flirt with me all of the time. problem though, is that they don’t know Im flat-chested.I’m wearing extreme gel-bras from Victorias Secret which makes me a full b/ small C (considering I choose a bit too big size and tighten the straps real hard). Been wearing this for my entire first semester in the US now and it feels awesome, because I feel more proportionate and I’ve noticed more male atention than before. my clothes also fit look so much better on me. I never show off though because of the way I dress really never show cleavage. (before starting college and wearing the bras it was as if cute guys would not interest themselves bcause of me not having boobs).

heres my problem - I’ve discovered some cute guys and I would love to take it to the next step sometimes - having sex. im a virgin. will a college guy (or any guy in general) reject me once he finds out how I’ve “faked it?”. Is it a turn-off? That I have like non-existant breasts when they think I do have some? How would you, as a guy, react to this? Sometimes I think that they wouldn´t themselves care cause breasts are not so important in the sex act, that its mostly a cultural issue and maybe how people around him would react if he had a flat girlfriend. But now noone but him more than me would know. Since with clothes on, I do have breasts.

I’ve considered surgery but then I’d probably feel even more fake and selfconscious, since apparantly that too is a big turn-off for guys.

Opinions? Continue w. gel-bra or not? Tell a guy I’m into in beforehand that I dont really have breasts? (some time into the relationship ofc) or not make a big deal out of it? I would prob be crushed if he said something mean or rejected me because of me faking it, but then again, Im loving that I for once have guys after me and that my clothes fit well. At the same time, I can occassionally just feel like a big fake, which kinda bothers me :(

Answer #1

girl I hated my breast so mch that I used to even pad my bra, but the day me an my boyfriend got intimate I just told him that I didnt want him to see me topless because I hated my breast. I was embaressed but after that there was a positive outcome; he didnt and still DOESNT CARE, he fondles, sucks and all, so it arent about the size after all, because from me being a shy uncomftabe 36 b am now proud of them.

listen during sex he would hardly focus on them his main attention will be on him cumming and your g spot.

Answer #2

Having small breasts is a huge deal. take care of your body, stay healthy, eat well, exercise and you’ll look your best. you already get guys attention so not having big boobs is not an issue. just be confident and youll get lots of guys!

Answer #3

From my perspective, its not all about size. If I care about a girl, I’m attracted to her in more than just a physical sense. And being less endowed doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It doesn’t mean that you’re not pretty. I myself find extremely large breasts unatractive. There’s nothing wrong with being on the petite side. If he rejects you or anything like that he’s an idiot. If the guy truly cares about you, it won’t be an issue. But I would definitely tell him. Good Luck!!!

Answer #4

I understand where your comin from.. I also have a flat chest but I never put any thing fake on or made my chest look bigger.. I tried wunce and I felt very insecure.. I had to get use to it and I eventually did.. and guys noticed me either way it went because I’ve ben told im a very pretty girl and I have a great personality. personality and the way you are covers up for a lot of your outward appearance.

with the whole sex thing only a jerk would say sumthn meen or hit it and quit it because of what you dont have..my personal opinion iz dont have sex with anybody that you know iz not the best guy for you.. follow your instinct and make sure you guyz have been talkn for a while and you really know him before youz have sex. if he iz the rite guy then he will not mind at all and he will just love you for you

Answer #5

As a guy let me tell you, if I’m attracted to you to begin with and we were to get to the point of sex, at that point the size of your breasts absolutely would not matter at all! If you find a guy you care about enough to have sex with then there’s no way he’ll reject you like that. Remember that up until the point before sex with someone you care about, if he cares about you and you’re in love, he’s into your personality, not your body, not at all.

And there’s other things to admire than boobs on a girl’s body anyway don’t forget.

Answer #6

Oh sweetie, you’ll be fine, a lot of girls who are petite have very small breasts, heck some look like they dont even have any, I wouldn’t worry about the whole sex ordeal, breasts only provide a small amount of sexual pleasure and intamacy, and really big breats aren’t all they’re cracked up to be they are a pain in the butt trust me I am a size 36c and I would give to at least go down a few sizes. The more you worry about it the more you’ll push away the idea of sex.

Answer #7

I have the same but im only 14 I hate havin no boobs

Answer #8

What a great size! Trust me there ae many guys who like your size, and in fact hate lager sized boobs. The guys around you will know that you are smaller and if they are flerting with you they obviously like you physically, if nothing else. So dont worry.

Enjoy your size and shape you will look healther for ever and wont have those big saggy breats later in life.

Dont have an op to make them bigger

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