What is My ex boyfriend's deal?

1. His real problem(s) is hard to isolate. However, with the information that you have given I would assume that his problem is an indecisiveness. This may be an internal-conflict. By this I mean, he might not know what he wants and one side of him may want to be a part of his son’s life/ your life. The stubborn side of him may be pulling him in the other direction. It’s hard to say with the information that you have provided. Sorry :(!

2. He may seem resentful because he is simply too stubborn to conceed to himself and to you that he was wrong and that many of his actions were wrong (not to mention he was/ is an alcoholic). With a lack of acceptance/ acknowledgement, comes denial. Denial can lead to many forms of negative behaviour and I am assuming that this is where his resentful and childish (eg. calling you without saying a word) behaviour has arisen from.

3. His family will naturally be defensive. It isn’t always easy to accept the flaws of a family-member, so it isn’t hard to understand why they take the matter personally (from a family perspective).

My advice would be to move on and forget about him. You made an intelligent and honourable decision to leave him. This was in the best interests of you and your child. You have done nothing wrong and have done everything right. Until this man learns what exactly it is that he wants from you, he does not deserve to be a part of your life. You’ve come this far… Don’t look back!

first of all, he sounds like a loser and an idiot. with the achoholism, I don’t think you should see him anymore, especially since you now have a son. you should try to find a guy that is loving and very supportive (and good with kids). this guy will cause you trouble in the future. take this from someone who grew up with an alcoholic father: they’re unpredictable, abusive (in many ways), and they really don’t make your life any happier. is he willing to get help for his condition? if he is, be patient wiht him. if not, forget about him.
the key in all of this is to think of your son, and his future. so, consider this: would you rather try to find someone who will have a positive impact on your son, or are you going to let this dude get in the way of all th happiness you could be expereincing?
PS if you have any other concerns about this, feel free to let me know.

What is his problem? Why does he act like he resents me? Why is he and his family making this about him?

You seem to be making this about HIM also… you’re asking all these questions about HIM. Well, I have a question for YOU.

Why haven’t you moved on? Why do you still interact with him? Why do you care what he does? Why do you care what he thinks?

You’ve made it clear that he’s a deadbeat dad… so that’s all there is… he’s an OLD chapter in your life. Don’t think about him, talk about him, or talk TO him. He doesn’t matter anymore… drop him…