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The choice between the mother of my child and the man of my dreams.

This is not a choice that I want to make. I want to marry this woman and I want to have a normal family life. I want another child, someday. I have wanted a family for as long as I can remember.

I just didn’t expect this man to come along and steal away my heart.

My first time was with the woman I’m currently involved with. I can’t even have sex with her, anymore. It disgusts me. I can’t see her naked. I find it all completely revolting. I can hardly speak with her. She doesn’t understand me and I find that most women don’t.

I want to be with her, because if I were to want a woman, she would be the perfect one. Unfortunately, women are not what I want anymore.

Would it be completely wrong of me to keep stringing her along, even though I’m madly in love with someone else? How hard could it really be to hide my sexual orientation from her?

She’s very religious and would probably force me into religious counselilng if I were to tell her. I can’t go through that. I need this man in my life. I have never been truly in love, before. I had no idea that I could love someone this much. I just don’t know how to keep the girlfriend along for the ride.

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Answer #1

Seeing as we’ve broken up months ago, I need to figure out how to close questions.

The man of my dreams won.

The mother of my child confessed to screwing around with my brother.

Answer #2

what Jess said

Answer #3

I don’t know anyone who would want to make this choice. You have to do what is right here and tell your girlfriend the truth. You owe her at least that much, and you can still have a family, although it may not be the “white picket fence” ideal situation. Love is a mysterious thing and no one gets to choose who they love. Everyone, your child included, will be better off in the long run if you come out and deal with the problem head on. It will be a really tough and scary thing to do and there will be no turning back, but hiding and lying will be more damaging to everyone involved. Best of luck, no matter what you decide to do. If you need someone to just listen and not judge you, fun mail me. Jess

Answer #4

The great thing about America todays is we are living in times where being your self is totaly OK. Just be honest with the lady tell her that more then anything you love your baby and you think she is a great person and mother. Be honest with her about your sexuality. you guys can still have a co-parenting relationship infact your child deservs it. If she is shocked at first give her a few days call her and talk. If she is not open to understanding you and tries to fight you on having a realtionship with your child research you laws dads have tons of right too.

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