Stop being a mistake?

I cant deal with it anymore. Why does my real dad keep calling my mom and asking about my brother and her but not about me. How come he wants nothing to do with me, what did I do? I was only 3 when he began to hate me and say I was a mistake. Why am I a mistake? And the worst part is I keep messing up and I push more and more people away. I dont want to b alone. I dont want to b a mistake

Answer #1

You are definitely NOT a mistake ! - you were very young and he didn’t really get to know you as he should have - talk to your mother about this, maybe she can help - just know it’s not your fault, any of it - you are a unique and beautiful person in your own right and I wish you much happiness !!

Answer #2

Your not a mistake hun good put you here for a reason

we all have days where we just want to die & not feel so much pain

but that doesnt mean we are mistakes he doesnt realize how great you are

but one day hes gunna regret not being with you & its gunna be 2 late

have confidence in your self never let anyone get you down =]

your not alone we are all here for you =]

Answer #3

Your not a mistake, God made you on purpose. a lot of time people that become parents are not ready to be parents, they are no where near responsible enough. The things your father says are not about you, they are about his own issues. There is no excuse for not being nice to your own child and if someone does it, they have problems, it is never about the child. That person was not responsible enough to become a parent in the first place and so they are not acting like one. A responsible parent shows love to all of their children equally. This dosen’t mean that you shouldn’t care about him but unfortunately you have to realize that at this point in his life, he does not think like a real father, he is not mature enough to be one. I know of plenty of people who have been angry at one of their kids, and not the other kids, for things that the kid had nothing to do with. I know a mother who was angry at her first daughter because of the attention her mate gave her when she was born and she never treated that daughter as well as she treated her other kids. In other cases if the child’s birth happened at an inconvenient time they have taken it out on the kid, but the other kids were treated differently . It has nothing to do with the child but with the immaturity of the parent. You are not a mistake, you were especially created by God for a reason, and that is true whether your father has issues or not.

Answer #4

If anyone’s making a mistake, it’s your dad. I have felt like you before but now I’ve come to realize that parents aren’t perfect and sometimes they get caught up in their own drama just like we do.

I know that doesn’t make it all better but I hope it gives you some perspective. Don’t let your dad’s drama dictate your reality because you do have value.

Answer #5

Its not your fault …is he your real father??? or did your mom cheat on him and you were from a different man …? and that gives him memories from that…you need to talk to your mom and dad so it can be clear to you and you can feel better …he has to stop callin you that too

Answer #6

you are NOT a mistake! far from it! your father (correct me if im wrong…) is just saying these awful things to justify the fact that he doesnt support you in the ways he should!

at least thats what I think…

oh and im here for you if that helps (even though im a complete stranger lol)

anyway live your life with full-fledged confidence in yourself and your ability to face the challenges ahead! I wish you much happiness and prosperity :)

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