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Met this guy at uni nearly 3 months ago, he's 21, I'm 18. (I've never had any sort of relationship with anyone before)
I wasn't remotely attached at 1st but after telling me he likes me etc I started to fall for this guy & long story short 3 weeks ago after saying it wasn't going to happen (I was planning on saving myself till marriage:/) we slept together.
Everyone I know had warned me about this guy & admittedly deep down I understand why -he's involved with certain things, he doesn't take me out, he doesn't contact me consistently..BUT he is my first everything. I've never been so close to anyone before & when we are together he makes me feel special.
The holidays are nearly over so I'm soon back to uni which means we will be around each other again..
I have no idea what to do! I like him but do I tell him I like him? Do I say I deserve better & stop talking to him? Or do I just carry on seeing him like this?
I don't know whether he is seeing other girls im not seeing anyone else if he was I wouldn't want to be with him because I don't like the idea of FWBs
Sorry, I don't even know if any of this even makes sense lol. I'm just so confused..any advice whatsoever?
One aspect of casual sex I don't see mentioned it how confusing it can be. Having sex is very intimate. You know what each other's skin feels like, what they smell like, how they taste. You make yourself incredibly vulnerable to them and they to you. Then after all of this you go your separate ways. I always found it very awkward. "Hooking up" is having sex with someone without romance or expectations. You can keep hooking up with him if you want to but don't assume that it will blossom into a romantic relationship; sometimes it does but more often it just leads to disappointment. If you are looking for more than just casual sex you should stop hooking up with him.
Okay this guy isn't looking for a relationship and he doesn't have romantic feelings for you like you do for him, he just wanted to sleep with you, nothing else. I understand that you're infatuated with this guy, especially since you've never been involved with anyone else and you're hoping that he feels the same way you do about him, but I'm 99% sure that it just isn't going to happen. If he doesn't contact you or doesn't treat you like he wants to be exclusive then that's that. You can try to tell him that you'd like to go out some time and tell him how you feel just to see how that goes though... But I think he's just having fun being a single guy.
tell him you like him or what your feelings are but prepare to be disappointed. im a first year student at university and i know from experience that most guys my age around here only want one thing. it kinda sucks but thats how it is. you say he was your first everything and its totally normal to feel attached to him. but just know that if you're going to continue hooking up, you might just end up feeling worse along the way. if you are looking for a relationship, then you should probably stop talking to this guy if he hasn't made any moves yet or said anything about the two of you actually being together. guys are horn dogs
he dosent exactly seem like the relationship type... but maybe tell him you like him.. or wait for him to make a move just stop the benifits part,,, like dont sleep with him or kiss him..kinda seems like he just wanted to get in your pants and now that he has hes over it and on to the next...
Be honest to your self !! If you are so uncomfortable then its time you tell him that u wanna move on !!
Being first does not mean that you be with someone unless u feel ur self with him!!
