Should we stay best friends or chance it for more?

My bestfriend is a guy and we have been really close for a while now. He comes over all the time and we both are starting to have stronger feelings for each other. we had always said that we could never go out because we didn’t want to ruin the great friendship that we have. He just started dating this girl and I am getting a little jealous but I dont know what to do. he said he wants to be with me but I dont know if I should take the risk of losing him if we break up. I lost a perfect boy about a year ago because we were too good of friends to make anything more of the relationship, I told him that and he found someone else and is very happy now but I regret my decision. now I am in the same spot I was in and I am scared to say yes or no for the same reason because I feel like if I say yes and then we break up, we wont be as close but if I say no then he will move on and then I will realize that I made a bad choice. I really need advice on what to do cause I am so lost. please help me!!!

Answer #1

The Golden Rule may apply here. Didn't you say he was dating someone? Is that in–dating only some ONE? If so, you need to treat her as you would want to be treated. (and believe me,what goes around DOES come around). You should tell the fellow that if he is serious about taking your friendship to the next level. Then he should level with his current date–and THEN you two could try it.

If you want guarantees that a relationship will work out well before you go into it==then you shouldn't get in a relationship. All you can do is use your best judgment, make a decision, and act on it. If you two break up, and you are no longer close; then that's the chance you took. Of course, you could always play it safe and just stay friends.

But before you decide anything, he must decide if he wants her or you.

Good luck and God Bless

Answer #2

hey..okay ive gone through this sooooo many times! im a junior now, and i've been best friends with the same guy since 7th grade. in middle school we were together for a while, that never lasted, but we are still best friends. Last year and this year i dated 2 guys that i've been close with, and it ended badly. Honestly, once you start dating your best friend that's a guy, things change forever! Sometimes its for the good, and sometimes its not. Just remember, chances are that you are not going to stay together forever because most couples don't, and breakups usually aren't fun! But, if you like him enough and he likes you enough, its a chance worth taking because you're always gonna have the "what if" in your head if you don't take chances! AND..if you like him a lot your probably goin to like him for a while and it's going to drive you crazy until you finally do something about it. BUT, if he's already in a relationship, have him break things off first before you start anything with him. And GOOD LUCK!!!! I hope you can post how things turn out.

Answer #3

thank u sooo much for the advice! it really did help alot. i have decided to try things out because like u said i know i would be thinking in the long run about how things might have worked out. if we decide that things arent working then we have promised that no matter what we would still be good friends. well i just thought i would tell u that and thank you for all of your help!

Answer #4

well this question hit home alot well i just got out of a relationship with my bestfriend and know she is scared that our friendship will be no more b/c she feel that

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