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She is new to relationships but...

So I have been hanging out with this girl for a while be we hardly see each other but we both like each other, she has never had a boyfriend but we are taking it very slow. but my point is I hardly get to see her see I communicate using face book I send her messages and comments that Im still interested I even write to her and put little small romantic things in them , but it doesn’t seem like she’s putting effort into making something happen so my question is what should I do?

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Answer #1

It’s her first relationship. Of course she’s not going to be expierenced so she’s not going to put much into it. It might seem a little akward for her. She might even feel that because she doesn’t talk to you much or see you much that there’s someone else, even if you send her messages on facebook. So she might be paranoid. It was like that for me. Just try and try to call her and talk to her, even if it’s just for a second. And try atleast once every few weeks to go out and spend time with each other and talk it out and see how she feels about everything.

Answer #2

well perhaps shes kinda nervous/scared of being in a relationship seeing as she hasnt been in one before id say it was pretty normal just make her feel more comfortable and of course keep taking things slow. maybe ask her about it? ask her if shes ready to be in a relationship and how slow/fast she wants to take it and kinda work around her. she’ll make more effort when she gets used it probably just give it time ;)

Answer #3

If she’s never had a real relationship before, then of coarse she’s not putting a whole lot into it. She probably has feelings for you and just doesn’t know what to do about it. If your patient, you can help her get over that. Just take your time, and like you said take it slow with her. Get to really know her. And give her an oppertunity to really know you. If after a while her putting more effort into making a relationship with you doesn’t get any better then maybe she’s not interested in ever having a relationship. Communication is key to building a strong relationship, so just talk to her about it. Good Luck, (:

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