Relationship Help!!!

Okay I got with this boy on August 23,3008. And to my suprise I lost my virginty to him on September 16,2008. Not on purpose but things happen I guess. And um ever since around Christmas we have been doing nothing but arguing and fighting. But we say we are so in love and we want it to work. But it just doesnt. But I dont want to to leave because he took somethin from me that I just cant get back, And I am actually in love with him. And he makes me happy. But im a sensitive person and when I get my feelings hurt im hurt for good and he cant understand. And just tells me to let it go. But when we break up im always the one going after him and asking him to take me back when I didnt do anything. Am I a weak female? Am I being stupid? Do I need to move on? Or shud I stay and try to make it work? HELPP!! its a decision that killing me slowly on the inside!

Answer #1

Forgot to add I don’t want to leave him. I really do love him. But we disagree so much. And when we decide to have space or take a break we are back together the NEXT DAY! Its just crazy. And he says if we do break up we can’t even b friends bcus he will b hurt. But wouldn’t you want to keep that person as a friend rather than throw them away ALL together just because you cudnt b together? I’m just so confused..we fight too much and its killin me slowly..I need some more advice.

Answer #2

I went through the same exact same thing when I was 17. Its going to be hard to leave him and thats the truth. But you will find someone who makes you happy,

Answer #3

You’re not weak nor stupid, but you need to wake up and smell the coffee, he does these things to you because you allow him to, he knows that no matter what he says or do u’ll take him back.Most guys dont develop as fast as girls do so the relationship that you are ready for might not be what he wants, you might have lost your virginity but its not the end of the world,mistakes were meant to happen but you need to learn from them.I do believe you should move on with your life and stop allowing him to treat you like this. The next time you meet a guy take time to know him before you give it up…

Answer #4

I know how you feel because im kind of in your position :) and its hard isnt it? your not weak your just in love or infatuated. my honnest oppinion is that you should stick at it if you realy love him :) but if your still doing it in 2 or 3 years GO!

as for the virginity try to let that go…as it was gonnah happern sometime and most people loose there virginity to someone they dont end up with anyway :)

Answer #5

it seems thats you’re unhappy in this relationship, even though you do love him. your not a weak female and definitly not being stupid, you’re allowed to feel hurt, if you really really I mean really love him you need to communicate and try to make it work, but it seems to me that it wont and you shud move on, but its a descision you have to make

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