can someone give me relationship advice?

I’m going to try and keep it short and simple since I know people don’t want to hear my life story. This is how it goes. I met a girl. The kind that you know she’s right for you the first time you see her. She had a boyfriend, but he wasn’t really there for her. I was. We flirted and got close. She insisted that we hang out so we did and I kissed her. Shed told me she wanted to kiss me for a long time. I knew the kiss was real because she was breathing heavy and was really into it. After we kissed she told me she really liked me and wanted to be with me over her boyfriend. She got a new job and suddenly became too busy to talk to me. She just graduated Highschool and she’s staying here for college so this is her last summer with most of her friends. She told me “she hasn’t just been ignoring me, she needs space”. What I’m worried about is if she still cares and if she will come back around. She refuses to answer my texts and talk to me about things but yet she cared when I deleted her off of facebook. When I finally got her to talk she said “i think you need space from me. I’ve been working a lot and I simply have no time right now. If you still feel this way in August, we will talk”. Listen, community, I know she needs space and she’s told me. So don’t try to be witty and tell me what I already know. What I’m confused with is why she won’t communicate. If she really cared she would find time right? Or am I wrong? Could she just be cutting me off for now so that we can have a fresh start in august? My overall question is, how do I find out if she still has feelings for me. Should I straight up ask or wait till august to text her. If so, what should I say? Thanks guys.

Answer #1

If I were you I would just give her some space and ask in August. People can’t always find time to do all the things they want to do, she probably doesn’t have time at the moment. Has she ever lied before? If not then she probably is being honest. Just give some to.e, August will be here soon and ask her then. Im sure it will earn you some brownie points with her by respecting her wishes. Im not saying dont text at all but try and cut down, maybe send a text in the morning saying good morning and to have a great day and a good night text wishing her sweet dreams. I hope this helps, good luck to you

Answer #2

But if I text her don’t you think that will show weakness in me considering the fact that it would mean I can’t give her space? Because I think her definition of ‘space’ is no communication at all. Maybe I should just keep my distance and hopefully when the year settles down for her she will be ready. I just don’t understand how someone can tell you deep secrets about their life and open up to you and tell you how much you mean to them and then the next day, totally forget you. Is that even humanly possible? Its a harsh world. Thanks for the reply.

Answer #3

But if I text her don’t you think that will show weakness in me considering the fact that it would mean I can’t give her space? Because I think her definition of ‘space’ is no communication at all. Maybe I should just keep my distance and hopefully when the year settles down for her she will be ready. I just don’t understand how someone can tell you deep secrets about their life and open up to you and tell you how much you mean to them and then the next day, totally forget you. Is that even humanly possible? Its a harsh world. Thanks for the reply.

Answer #4

I don’t think it shows weakness it shows you are thinking about her. Just give it some time, she probably wants the space so she can think about things, like you said she just said she has/had a boyfriend and she probably wants to make sure she is making the right decision

Answer #5

And your welcome

Answer #6

To me it seems as though she’s torn between the two of you and that’s why she’s asking to be left alone. Having no contact will allow her to think things through and see how not having you around makes her feel. Hopefully she’ll realize that she misses you and doesn’t want to be without you since you seem to like her a lot. If in case she doesn’t and it seems like its taking her way too long than you can ask for an answer but until then you’ll simply have to give her space. Good luck!

Answer #7

Its weird because she doesnt ever talk about him and I never hear anything about them. It seems as though its not really about him. I think it could be that she wants time with her friends before they leave without having to think about me. I could be completely wrong. But I know I can be there for her and I like her very much. I’ve never heard anything good said about her boyfriend, yet she insists on staying. Ive had my fair share of faults, but I know I’m a good guy for her and I want to be with her. The feeling that I get when I think of being forgotten by such a beautiful person is really killing me. I just hope everything turns out.

Answer #8

Its weird because she doesnt ever talk about him and I never hear anything about them. It seems as though its not really about him. I think it could be that she wants time with her friends before they leave without having to think about me. I could be completely wrong. But I know I can be there for her and I like her very much. I’ve never heard anything good said about her boyfriend, yet she insists on staying. Ive had my fair share of faults, but I know I’m a good guy for her and I want to be with her. The feeling that I get when I think of being forgotten by such a beautiful person is really killing me. I just hope everything turns out.

Answer #9

Just because she does not talk about him does not mean that internally she has written him off. Maybe she’s afraid of sharing those feelings with you because they will turn you away? We don’t know what she’s fighting within herself so we have to assume that she’s trying to figure out what she’s going to do. It’s hard, I get it. But the last thing you want to do is scare her away by being pushy. Simply give her the space that she asked for. That’s all you can do now.

Answer #10

Thank you.

Answer #11

You are very welcome :)

Answer #12

You are very welcome :)

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