Question about a friend helping me have a baby?

Not really.. But I’m not saying that he can’t be apart of the baby’s life. What I am saying is that he wants a romantic relationship with me, he wants me to be his gf or wife or whatever but I refuse to be with him that way because I am already taken by an amazing girl. We are just asking for him to hep us be parents one day. I don’t mind him being involved with the baby but I am NOT going to date him. That’s the whole issue.

Do not have him help you because it will cause A LOT of problems once the baby actually arrives. I mean he’s already giving you problems and nothing has been decided yet. If you don’t have money for an artificial insemination you could always just ask another friend who is willing to help you, by NOT having s ex with you or your girlfriend. I know a lesbian couple who asked a male friend to help them and he provided sp er m in a turkey baster and she used that to get pregnant. I’m not joking, look it up. It was successful and they have a beautiful baby boy :)

Oh I see, I understand better now. I agree with Kaheelee, I think you should find someone else. This guy can’t seem to handle this for whatever reason he might have and will cause plenty of problems.

eh hes not a friend he just wants to have sex with you thats what im getting…. so say no i will find someone else like he dosent have to have sex with you to help you he just has to do his business in a cup and you buy something to make it easyer for you to put it in you know… but he dosnt seem like a true friend..

Do NOT take this ‘friend’ as a sperm donor. But don’t do it in a way that rejects him if you want to remain friends. An easy way - because it is true - is to tell him that you and your GF decided to wait until you both are better off financially to support a baby. Babies are EXPENSIVE, TIME CONSUMING, and DEMANDING. Babies do NOT heal a rocky relationship. So my suggestion is to get your finances in order, make sure your relationship with your GF is secure, and bite the bullet and get artificial insemination. It is $300-500 an attempt. If a mother-to-be has fertility problems it might take many attempts to succeed, and therefore a high total price. BUT presumably YOU (or your GF) have normal fertility and so could succeed quickly. Alternatively, you might try adoption. Take care, and Good Luck!!