Problems with self injury

ok, so I generally self-injur or whatever, and lately like the last 2 weeks I havent, but I’ve been getting suicidal and feel like im going to start hurting myself again, what do I do? please only answers from people who have recovered from this problem, anyone else doesnt understand.

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Answer #1

ok fau, you don’t have to have been through labour to know its painful.

I’m really concerned for you, and I want you to think about some of the things I say before you reply, and please do. self-harming is not something that is not simply destructive or selfish, there is a real reason for you doing it. and granted, a lot of people do not understand why people self-harm, but nevertheless, it is very much a real problem, and one that seems to be used more and more.

but think about it, people ‘self-harm’ every day, self harm is simply a way in which a person conciously harms their body to cope with something. I realise you probably don’t see the connection, but smokers, alcoholics and recreational drug users do it too.

there are a few things you need to look at before you do anything, and self-harming is preferable to you doing anything more devastating. would you answer,

when you started doing it?
wjhat was going on at that time (most people who self-harm do it becuase at a particular time there was a loss of control over their own lives)
what made you stop for a while?
whats going on lately to make you start up again?
what do YOU fell when you self-harm? shame? guilt? relief? anger? dispair? happiness?

I do understand what you’re going through, I am a nurse, so I don’t mean to be all ‘happy clappy’ but I have experiance of people who self-harm. please don’t do anything, look at some of your replies and see what people say. and if you exclude people who haven’t ever self-harmed then you’re judging them, and assuming that they don’t have some knowledge. if you exclusivly want self-harmers, then you are only going to get one perspective on your situation, especially as self-harming never really goes away ever, its just a case of learning to live and cope with your problems differently, fortuently, over time the process becomes a little less effort and more routine.

Answer #2

I used to be a cutter, haven’t done it for 13 years now. I guess the first part is to accept that you are going to get the urge to harm yourself from time to time, that is ( I guess) a normal part of the recovery. I am also a recovering alcoholic- and I get the urge to drink occasionally- but I do not do it. ok- how I keep from giving in to these urges? when that urge starts to come over me, first- I recognize where that urge is originating from- what is making me feel like harming myself- identify the source, and come up with a plan to purge it from your life. I also accept that it is basically my will to not harm myself against my will to do it, it may take all of your strength but fight the “harmful impulse” part of yourself. generally speaking - when I cut, I was attempting to hold my emotions inside, because at that stage of my life I felt it was wrong to let the tears flow, felt it was wrong to show emotion in front of other people, it took a while for me to learn to channel emotions freely, when I felt angry- to be angry, when I felt sad- to be ( and show) saddness, when I was hurting- to show that pain, and let the tears flow. feeling is what makes us human, and I was trying vainly to keep everything bottled up inside- and my blood flowing from a wound would make me feel better. so ultimately it was my own desire to repress my emotions , that had to go.

whatever is eating away at you (on the surface) needs to be seperated from your life , and eventually through getting to know yourself- the bigger answer may appear- as to the true source of your need to harm yourself- and by that time you will be strong enough to truly face it down and remove it. (I.e. facing your demons)

just remember some simple points. getting the urge to harm is going to be with you for awhile- accept it, but don’t give in.

your will to not harm is very much stronger than your will to do yourself harm.

channel those feelings into something else ( change negative into positive- through artwork, music, helping a charity- you define and look to see where negative energy can be used in your life)

you will survive this, and become a balanced person ( chant this when you are getting the urges- it is a simple mind control technique- but you must believe in yourself)

I hope this helps, from someone “who has been there”

Answer #3

Ok, I’m violating your request in an attempt to help anyway. I’ve battled some issues myself, so give me a chance.

First I try to stick around people that change my current attitude and social patterns in any way. Just to get a new feel. I try to stay busy. I’m out almost every night. I meet people, do new things. It’s hard a lot of times and doesn’t always work. But, if nothing else, it’s a start. You never know who you might meet and what you might discover

Answer #4

Tbh, I was like that and I stilll am, But there was a time where iahdn’t done it for a month, and for me that was like years, and I was really proud of my self, but then something bad made me do it again and I felt really disapointed, I couldn’t stop myself though :(

And the worst thing is hiding,

Answer #5

I did de same thing!=( <3 Yuu shud throw out all yuur blades etc. <3 Keep reminding yyurself tat yuu don’t want to duu tat!! <3 Think of other things!![not self harming] <3 Find other waiis 2 deal wiv yuur stress are anger are whateva emotion is causing yuu 2 duu it!!!

I hoped I helped!!!=)

Answer #6

lmao jax

Answer #7

smile, and hug people, and jump around singing the “Goofy Goober” song I am 100% serious

Answer #8

Do not frustrate.Consult with physiologist and explain all your problems.Spent more time with your family and friends.

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