What do you think about parents cursing at their children?

Answer #1

its horrible. cursing in front of them at all. We should try to keep their innocence as long as possible. Makes the child feel valnurable and have low self asteem.

Answer #2

I know it’s ugly i was at the store a heard this father cursing awful at his little girl. To me especially it’s more awful when dads curse at there daughters call them names.

Answer #3

awe poor lil girl :( i would have snuck her a hug… I was at the store the other day and i heard this ol man cursing at his daughter cuz she wanted a ice cream bar. and he wanted her to haev another kind. he was draggin her by her arm real tough like. I wanted to punch that man :/

Answer #4

I think it’s horrible. A child should never be expose to that kind of explicit language so early. I mean obviously they’re gonna hear it later on in life, and may very well use it themselves. But I think it’s bad on the parents part because they’re teaching their kids that’s okay to swear and use bad language. And it’s disrespectful and wrong. I think if they are angry or mad they should go outside and swear or get as far away from the kids as possible. so they won’t get the idea that swearing is okay.

Answer #5

Omg it was and what made it more ugly the stupid guy was cursing in spanish and poor kid look used to it all she said was Sí papa. Poor kid my heart went out to her.

Answer #6

Of course it’s not ok! By parents swearing at their children, their teaching their children it’s ok to swear, & then they take that to school, jobs, church and also when they grow up they could follow in their parents footsteps and repeat the cycle and then thier children might repeat the cycle and then its just a on going cycle. Also kids pick up on the emotion behind words parents say, so if the parents are angry when using the word. The children will use it when they are angry. There are lots of things that stem off doing this. It’s a horrible environment to grow up around, esp when it’s so negative.

Answer #7

I have this uncle who thought it was so cute when his kids would swear even before school, but now they get into trouble constantly at school and his own kids even now swear back to him and others and think its so hilarious.

Answer #8

I see no problem with it. My parents cursed at me constantly, but they were great parents. Its just a way to “let out steam.” (In my opinion.

Answer #9

Really so you see no problem with a father calling his little girl the b word or a little f’er? in y opinion its wrong.

Answer #10

It depends how . Likw if the perent curses at the kid because they are insulting ir mistreating, yeah thats harsh & it does hurt. But if your looking at a perent who simply does it as a regular thing, like as a part of their language, thats fine by me. My foster mom curses all the time & I don’t find it offensive, its normal & I realize its not intended towards me…

Answer #11

I see no problem. They’re gonna learn it some day. As long as they know what the words mean and properly understand what they’re saying, they can choose to use them or to not. I won’t censor things for my kids if I ever choose to adopt, EVER.

Answer #12

It’s obviously wrong if they’re verbally attacking their CHILDREN, but swearing can be used well and to add emphasis. At my school we’re usually allowed to swear because it’s a means of self expression, some teachers don’t like it but most don’t mind.

Answer #13

its a sin against childhood

Answer #14

Decency is a rare thing nowadays. In fact most Virtues are pretty much forgotten. We hand our poor behaviors down to our children via influence. Well stated in Stephen’s example. Your children will more often that not grow up to be alot like yourself or what you give them as they learn the world. There are appropriate times for harsh language (not profanity) and even physical punishment, and I don’t mean beatings. There is a huge difference between discipline and abuse. No child should be subjected to profanity or violence, because they perpetuate it upon their children in turn. The world would be a whole lot better if nobody was like that.

Answer #15

Cursing is a sign of poor communication skillsets. Yes everybody let’s one out here and there. But when certain off color words are mingled into almost every sentence. It’s not just used to let out steam… Some people can’t communicate without adding f’er to every sentence. Unfortunately the kids will only learn to communicate as well as the parents who are their communication teachers.

Answer #16

The problem with that is that they inherit problems that could be avoided. Friends they can’t play with because those parents don’t want their children exposed to another child using that language. Teachers won’t tolerate swearing so they get into trouble at school. In the workforce they can and are fired for use of profanity. Once your groomed into it, it becomes an easy automatic slip of a lip…but can have consequences.

Answer #17

Yes Marisha i agree with it is a sign of poor skills. Any kind of cursing towards kids is horrible. Parents think they wont remember there kids but now these days kids remember everything. As they grow up and just raised around cursing they find it okay. They think its okay to say curse words if something goes wrong or there mad. As they grow have there children they keep that cycle going which is just sad. No children should have to be exploded to cursing. Yes i know when there older they will here but in my opinion they should have there innocence well they are small.

Answer #18

Theres 2 people up my road and they smoke canabis round there children and all they do is sit on there phones all day expectin there 9 year old to do everything and i mean everything he has to put them to bed the lot, there nasty spitfull people and dont give a toss about there little boys its discustin all there clothes in there house smell like wee ,when i had to babysit for them i wouldnt dress them not in clothes covered in wee so i got some of my spare clothes its vile why even dream of havin children when you mentally and physicly abuse them ,who in there right mind can treat such a defenslase child like that its vile .

Answer #19

Its awful. the one time my mom swore at me, it actually hurt so much. i started crying. like its not something parents can do to their kids. acyone else sure. but not kids. it breaks trust.

Answer #20

My dad did this once but it was because he heard me curse at my sister. Yeah, I was bad. He kept lecturing to me and stuff that it’s a bad thing to curse. I was sort of influenced by bad TV shows. Anyway, that was the only incident he cursed in front of his kids. In my opinion, it’s not right to curse at them. If the kids did something wrong I guess the right thing a parent should so is explain to a child what is right and not let children hear them cursing cuz the kids might just get influenced to curse because of their parents.

Answer #21

I don’t think you should do it to young kids because My parents didn’t do that to me. BUT( that’s a big butt right there) When I got in 8th Mannnnn I got cussed out for the stupid stuff I did all the time! Now that I’m in 10th grade I don’t get into much trouble, but it’s a hobbie to bother my parents. So usually I hear “ Shut the f$$k up Amber” “What the hell are you doing!” or “Heffa it’s too damn early for this sh!t!” :) I love my parents lmao!

Answer #22

It sounds like the parents are pretty young themselves or never grew up. Some people at the birth of their child, realize the welfare of their child is in their hands and set aside their party lifestyle to focus on the future of their child. Others, it doesn’t even occur to as they are too deep into their addictions. Yet some may have been themselves raised that way and just don’t know any other way to live. If you’ve tried to communicate to the parents about how unacceptable of an enviornment is for these children….and others see the problem too…Calls to DCFS and a visit from them …may get the parents attention.

Answer #23

When people talk about abuse, they immediately focus on the damage of physical abuse. But verbal abuse can be far more damaging and can last a lifetime. Demeaning a child is brainwashing them into believing there is something wrong with them and they can never be good enough. They can go through life crippled emotionally, never knowing what their potential could have been. Physical scars heal but emotional ones in many cases never do.

Answer #24

When people talk about abuse, they immediately focus on the damage of physical abuse. But verbal abuse can be far more damaging and can last a lifetime. Demeaning a child is brainwashing them into believing there is something wrong with them and they can never be good enough. They can go through life crippled emotionally, never knowing what their potential could have been. Physical scars heal but emotional ones in many cases never do.

Answer #25

When people talk about abuse, they immediately focus on the damage of physical abuse. But verbal abuse can be far more damaging and can last a lifetime. Demeaning a child is brainwashing them into believing there is something wrong with them and they can never be good enough. They can go through life crippled emotionally, never knowing what their potential could have been. Physical scars heal but emotional ones in many cases never do.

Answer #26

I hate it when this repeat posting happens :/

Answer #27

I know what you mean about reposting, Marisha, but this particular comment of yours was eminently deserving of being posted multiple times. The issue of “bad language” that most respondents addressed is a real one, and I agree with most of the critical comments about it, including yours. But the degradation and humiliation that parents can inflict upon their child by verbal abuse can be so much more destructive of the child’s psyche, self-love, and prospects for a fulfilling life enriched by intimate relationships. I know this not just theoretically but from my own family experience. Please, parents, learn to bring your frustration and rage under control before you take it out on the young ones that G!d has made so utterly dependent on your loving care.

Answer #28

yeah very very true

Answer #29

Okay Joe_mc123, you asked the question for everyone’s opinion on the topic, and when I gave mine, you attacked it. Not that I mind, it just doesn’t make any sense.

Answer #30

If they are really young than that is awful but as they get older they’ll most likely hear it in school my parents barely swore around me when i was younger but when i started swearing like 4th grade i started hearing them all the time and i picked it up now i have an awful mouth and i’m trying to break it

Answer #31

I think until you’ve been on the planet long enough to see first hand how mere words…. thought as being just a simple quick fix on venting frustrations…is ito a child a branding iron that burns each time deeper into their soul. To watch them evolve from child to adult carrying that branding in all they do…you can’t help but grieve the loss of unrealized potential and how there lives could be. Womans shelters, addictions, jails, and cemetary’s are all filled with many of the same childhood stories.

Answer #32

It’s fine as long as it’s not continuous harsh and traumatizing insulting

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