Should I tell dad I might be bi?

my parents split up about 4 mounths ago, a coupple days past my birthday (soo nice of them to wait 4 days… sike) but anyways im living with my dad now and he knows im hideing something so he opened up to me by like telling me bad things he did at my age. soo im thinkin about telling him im bi, should I? or should I wait until im 100% sure I am? but hes like a supper christian, and I dont want him to have an heart attack.

Answer #1

shrugs stop being afraid you are who you are don’t hide it nor run from it because it might kick you in the A-S-S in the future or you could keep it a secret like me not that im afraid I just don’t see the point in telling my mom she’s mostly at work but I know she’ll be cool with it because she told me she would love me if I was or not though good luck kid.

Answer #2

No, I agree with Tyra, you have to discover who you are before you can introduce yourself to others. Don’t try to push the issue to fast, sexual orientation is a big deal that you should probably take some time to think about if you have questions about it.

Answer #3

lol, ok, first figure it out yourself then talk to your parents. If he senses you’re confused he will grab on and hold on to the hope that you’re not (in addition to trying to convince you you’re not). It’s nice he’s trying to be open, but sexuality is not the place to start sharing…

Answer #4

You are at an age where similar feelings and thoughts are frequented by maturing teens.

Because you said your dad is likely quite biased because of religion, I would be against discussing it with him.

I would, however, seek out some other caring adult to discuss your thoughts and feelings with. Possibly your mother. If not, then some other responsible adult who isn’t judgmental but can assist you in interpreting your thoughts and feelings.

If your dad becomes inquisitive about what you’re “hiding”, simply tell him that it’s personal, involving female issues, which you are working through.

Answer #5

I don’t see any need to reveal this information to him right now - and as you yourself have said, you’re not 100% sure anyway. If it’s not an area you’re comfortable talking about with your dad, I’d put it on the back burner for a while.

One of the other advisors posted some interesting information recently - it was from another site, and described all the different kinds of bi-sexualities there actually were. I found it really interesting. I’ll look for it and post it back here.

Answer #6

Hi, To help you with your answer, you may like to read the following which was taken from the second advice link at the bottom of this reply:

Part of it states:

As you can see, there is no simple definition of bisexuality, and bisexual people are a very diverse group. There are several theories about different models of bisexual behavior. J. R. Little identifies at least 13 types of bisexuality, as defined by sexual desires and experiences. They are:

Alternating bisexuals: may have a relationship with a man, and then after that relationship ends, may choose a female partner for a subsequent relationship, and many go back to a male partner next.

Circumstantial bisexuals: primarily heterosexual, but will choose same sex partners only in situations where they have no access to other-sex partners, such as when in jail, in the military, or in a gender-segregated school.

Concurrent relationship bisexuals: have primary relationship with one gender only but have other casual or secondary relationships with people of another gender at the same time.

Conditional bisexuals: either straight or gay/lesbian, but will switch to a relationship with another gender for financial or career gain or for a specific purpose, such as young straight males who become gay prostitutes or lesbians who get married to men in order to gain acceptance from family members or to have children.

Emotional bisexuals: have intimate emotional relationships with both men and women, but only have sexual relationships with one gender.

Integrated bisexuals: have more than one primary relationship at the same time, one with a man and one with a woman.

Exploratory bisexuals: either straight or gay/lesbian, but have sex with another gender just to satisfy curiosity or ‘see what it’s like.’

Hedonistic bisexuals: primarily straight or gay/lesbian but will sometimes have sex with another gender primarily for fun or purely sexual satisfaction.

Recreational bisexuals: primarily heterosexual but engage in gay or lesbian sex only when under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol.

Isolated bisexuals: 100% straight or gay/lesbian now but has had at one or more sexual experience with another gender in the past.

Latent bisexuals: completely straight or gay lesbian in behavior but have strong desire for sex with another gender, but have never acted on it.

Motivational bisexuals: straight women who have sex with other women only because a male partner insists on it to titillate him.

Transitional bisexuals: temporarily identify as bisexual while in the process of moving from being straight to being gay or lesbian, or going from being gay or lesbian to being heterosexual.

*Without reading this I would have also posted a straightforward reply as you both did. However, I never knew there were so many subgroups with different definitions.

See the following links:

http://allies.tamu.edu/Did%20You%20Know/bisexuality.htm

http://www.cat-and-dragon.com/stef/Poly/Labriola/bisexual.html

Interesting reading.

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