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Our foreplay has died...

So me and my boyfriend have been having great sex, but, we both need foreplay, we used to have amazing foreplay but it just kinda died, im not getting wet enough, im fine at getting him hard though, does anyone have some ideas on something new we could try? im open to pretty much everything, thanks

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Answer #1

I wanted to say thanks for your advice you gave me. I appreciate that you didnt take the usual road of saying im a w*ore or a slut and that I should be ashamed like so many other people, so I definatly thankyou for that.

In your post you mentioned a previous question of mine, I wanted to inform you that I do share this account with 2 other people who I trust with my life and trust me with theirs. It may not have been my question.
Also, I know that im 14, and everyone tells me im way to young, but, sometimes its mental maturity along with physical, that makes the difference between people. I understand that there really isnt any way to tell the maturity of someone online but I thought I would mention it. 
Me and my boyfriend have resolved the issue by cutting down signifigantly. Its not that im bored of sex, im bored of the 2 things my boyfriend constantly does to get me to the point of wanting it. I dont fool myself thinking that sex is love. Sex is physical lust and infatuation, Love is emotional bliss that no matter what it wont end, its the one person that you cant live without, and thinking about a life without them breaks your heart.
I trust him with my life, because he stopped it from ending, its a personal story about my own stupid thinking, and him being there to save me, its quite the unusual relationship, he makes me laugh every time I see him and I learn something new every day.
I just thought I would clear all of this up, again, I really appreciate the advice, fun mail me if there are any other concerns, thanks again
                                                                                   -emony-
Answer #2

Great sex? Used to have amazing foreplay? Cant get wet enough? Hun, you are talking as if you are married woman? YOUR ONLY 14 years old!

A teen dating relationship is NOT all about sex! You said in one of your other questions that you feel you have fallen too fast for this one, and you’ve never felt like this before…well thats because teens confuse sex with love. Sex does NOT equal love. When the physical part of the relationship races ahead of everything else, it can almost become the focus of the relationship, and they’re not then developing all of the really important skills like trust and communication and all those things that are the key ingredients for a healthy, long-lasting relationship.

Dating shouldnt be about sex. Dating is, by definition, putting aside some time to get to know someone better and to learn how they may or may not fit into your life. This usually involves talking, discovering, hopefully laughter, and usually a few kisses. Those kids who wait beyond high school have fewer uncomfortable or scary sexual encounters, have longer lasting and more meaningful relationships, and have better relationships because they take the time to actually build a relationship rather than experimenting with sexual behaviors. Dating is about exploring the adult world without adult consequences. As soon as you introduce sex into the picture, the consequences become very adult, including pregnancy, disease, and broken hearts.

Trust me Hun when I say, this is NOT going to be your last boyfriend…if your bored of sex already at your age, what have you got to look forward to as an adult?

Answer #3

And thanks for the respectful comment back! Good Luck with everything!

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