My friends are annoying!

I have these girl friends who annoy the sh*t out of me. I can’t seem to be rude and tell them I don’t want to talk to them! They are constantly trying to make plans with me and I have been pushing the excuses quite a bit, do you know if there is anything I can say and not sound rude? I think they know I don’t really care about our friendship as much since they have told me I am distant… they are not rude or anything, just really annoying. I think in some ways I haven’t really been rude because I don’t have too many friends… but I just feel as though they annoy me. They constantly want to go to clubs and I feel we do not have anything in common anymore. I feel bad even thinking this way because they are nice to me, and I am the one who always seems to come off as rude, I’m just really puzzled as to why they continue to want to hang out and not see that I have been avoiding them. One of them also complains that I rather go to see my boyfriend (I have been with my boyfriend longer than good friend with her). I find that they are clingy and I want to somehow get out of this without coming off as rude. Please help, I am really a nice person, I;m just stuck in a weird situation. Plus there is no category for this so I had to choose love and relationships :S Anyway maybe there is someone here who can let me know what to do, thanks.

Answer #1

Well, it’s not really in the wrong category. Friendships fall under the “relationship” umbrella because that’s what they are.

Anyway…They know you’re distant and like to be socially exempt from a lot of things. They’re just trying to break you out of your shell. In my opinion stop dealing out excuses and go with the truth “thanks, but I’d rather not.”

You can talk to them without being rude by using a soft tone and saying something like “Hey, I know you want me to go to all these clubs and such with you but that’s really not my scene. Is it possible that you can quit asking me to go with because I’m just going to say no ever time, right?”

Anything else, let me know. Good luck!

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