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How can I help my relationship with my Mom and Dad?

So my real father passed away when I was 8 years old and ever since then my mom and I have been best friends. And when I say best friends, I mean it’s like she’s not my mom, and she’s just my friend. It has its advantages, but the cons overdo them. When we fight, it’s not a mom and daughter fight, it’s a huge bitch fight until my step dad gets into it, and that’s when things get really nasty. My step dad used to have a drinking problem and even though he’s ‘ getting over it’, he always relapses. He screams and sometimes things get violent. I want to be able to sit at the dinner table without having to scream about why I didn’t come to dinner right away or why my grades aren’t perfect. Any advice? Please? Is the trick really to do just do as your parents ask ?

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Answer #1

IMHO: It saddens me to read this - Parents should NEVER be ‘best friends’ - they must maintain the proper Parent/child relationship - with discipline and setting the example….if not, the result is exactly what you wrote….but certainly there’s plenty of blame to go around….do what your Parent asks….She loves and cares about you, doesn’t want to see you hurt - wants to see you successful in life…you’re Blessed to have such a Parent - MANY don’t….I wish you both the very best !!

Answer #2

My mom was my best friend too. It prevented her from talking to me as a parent and I sort of didn’t have a lot of respect for her motherliness because of it.

I can only give you one bit of advice to stop screaming at the dinner table. Stop screaming at the dinner table. Let her lose control and scream if she wants to, but you do not. Eventually, she will follow your lead and you guys can have rational conversations. If she yells at you for being late to the dinner table, just say calmly as you sit down, “yes, I’m really sorry mom. I’ll do better tomorrow.”

You take away the power of the “fight”if you remain calm and keep your voice down at all times.

Answer #3

no the trick is to kiss your moms butt. Clean your room do everything she screams about so that she has nothign to scream about. thats all there is to it. be home on time if your not call her ahead of time and tell her. and for your grades.. try harder if ur trying tell her that you are giving it all you can and for her to be there and ingcourage you instead of screaming at you because that doesnt help. dont scream hit or any of that.. work it out through a talk. its super hard.. but it does it. If u keep your cool shel keep her cool.:) hope i helped

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