How to stop thoughts of getting back with my ex?

The main attraction of an ex is the memories rather than the actual ex. You think back to the first kiss, first date, stuff they said or did that just made you feel fantastic… and you think to yourself “Wow, I’d do anything to go back there…” but if you did, it wouldn’t be the same. Remember, there’s always the reason you broke up in the first place.

Now, the new guy… I really think you should make it a ‘just friends’ thing for now. You need time to get over your ex, and even though you might think you are over him, chances are that you’re not. Take the time to get to the point where your ex is, what I like to call, a ‘non-event’- you don’t love him, you don’t hate him. He’s just ‘oh yeah, that guy”.

You’ve still got ages for dating, but how you feel in your head is something you need to try and work on. While I don’t believe anyone is ever in perfect mental health, I think it’s important to get a balance so that you’re at least in a state of ‘good’. Just take the time to clear your head, think of the good memories, and look after yourself before focussing on another relationship.

All the best! :)