Is he treating me right?

I have a boyfriend…weve dated…hmmm I don’t know…almost more than a year. Once we got passed the whole “happy happy joy joy” months (you know when he’s all you ever think about…ever!) Well we changed. He wanted sex all the time…but I wasn’t willing to give it too him. I dont like to let people down and he knows that. Everytime I would say no, he’d get this disappointed look on his face and I’d give in and let him do whatever he wanted to do. Friends tell me he’s using me for sex but he can be really sweet sometimes. At school and in the halls, he’ll tug me around. Yanking me one way and then the other. I tell him to stop but he never does. It got to the point where he yanked me so hard that I tripped and almost sprained me ankle. He apologized and he stopped yanking me for like, I don’t know a few weeks. Then it started up again. He’s such a little kid sometimes. If I dont sit as close as possible to him in lunch, or when were hanging out…or in class. He goes, “Fine dont sit next to me, I’ll remember that later.” or “Guess you dont love me enough.” In the end I always scoot closer. To clear this up, he’s never hit me. And I dont believe he would…tho he is pretty rough with me sometimes. He’s always talking about my looks and my body, never about my personality and he shares our sex life with the world. It makes me feel like a slut. He wont let me hang with friends unless he lets me, he gets mad if I dont call him ALL the time and if one guy so much as looks in my direction he goes violent. I dont know what to do. I’ve tried dumping him twice but he’s the whole, “I’m gonna kill myself type” so I end up going back because I feel bad for him. I dont even love him anymore, atleast I dont think and it keeps getting worse. I need to figure out what to do before it gets bad. Is he treating me right? Should I leave? What people?! I need help.

Answer #1

he sounds obsessive/posessive of you and will get angry or upset if your not with him or close to him all the time or if he doesnt know were you are, who your with, ect and he also sounds like hes using you at first he probably did respect you but it sounds like all he wants is sex now and seeing as though he knows you dont always want it but doesnt even bother to say “thats ok, we can do it later or when you want to, ect” hes using you for sex and he doesnt respect your feelings I think the best thing to do would be to break up with him and by the sounds of it, he could get violent if you ever said this to him but it doesnt sound like your happy and hes obviously not treating you with any respect and if both people arnt happy theres no point in being in a relationship if you do decide to break up with him to to do it with a friend whos close to you or were theres quite a few people that way if he was thinking about hurting you hed think again because so many people are watching and you really shouldnt be in a relationship with someone who both doesnt respect you ad someone your probably worrying about constantly if ythere going to kill themselves or if there upset or mad because you didnt call them or move closer to them at lunch time

Answer #2

No he’s not treating you right. There are plenty of guys out there who would treat you with respect and care for you. In a way by staying with him you’re condoning his bevaiour. As soon as you spot behaviour that you don’t like and can’t tolerate, you should end it if he doesn’t take your concerns seriously when you explain to him it’s hurting you. It’s about having self respect. Also he’s using emotional black mail on you with the suicide threat. His life is his responsibility, not yours. The fact that he’s saying such things ought to help you see things even more clearly. It’s not a good foundation for a relationship!

Answer #3

yeah hes might be using you, but it also sound like hes alittle tooo much, he seems annoying, how could you even date him??lol I honestly think it time to end it, your only with him cause you feel bad, thats not right for you, or for him if you do care enough to stay with him then maybe you should start caring enough to leave him. if he is rough with you who said he wouldnt hit you, you never know I would be affraid of datting him sooo much, that I wouldnt. honestly you should end it I think that would be smart. by ending im pretty sure you will be making the right choice. well I hope I helpeed, I wish you the best of luck, and remember always listen to your heart for help

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