in love with married man

From my experience, these type of relationships tend not too last because of the huge gap in age difference and the fact that both parties in the long run do not share common interests. I know you say you love him now but can you really imagine being his mistress for the next 20 years? What about all the pain you might have to face up to if your Dad ever did find out?

Most of the poeple I know that had these type of affairs in their late teens or early twenties ended their relationships after a few months. I think that women at that age feel safe with an older man and also, let’s face it, feel very empowered sexually because they are seducing and attracting an older male. I think it makes them feel very special, sexy and safe. I also think that it can be a great learning experience because you tend to have a more mature relationship with a man that is so much older. But I also think you are most probably wrong to think that your love for this man will come to an enduring relationship.

My best advice is take with a grain of salt, see the relationship for what it really is. Don’t fantasize or over dramatize the situation. Try to understand what attracts you to him, learn from it and move on. Don’t forget he has 20 years of experience over you and might not have the same feelings for you. Either way, time will tell how you both really feel about eachother and what sacrifices you are really willing to make for eachother. You should however continue seeing your friends and having fun with people your age too.

dont be “that” woman. let someone else be the reason to destroy a family. think about those kids and the unknowing wife. think of what will happen if she and the kids find out. find a man your own age and have some fun that doesnt involve breaking up a family.

Well this isn’t personal but my mother and her boyfriend has a 16 year age difference and they were CRAZY about each other. But the age gap was too much. They had no choice but to break up. It was like a summer romance.

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Hey paris407 I will endeavour to be nice and not mean with my answer :)

Ok why would you want to get involved with a married guy in the first place?… MARRIED men should be OFFLIMITS !! … apart from sex what common interest would you have with someone that friggin old (eweee)… your the same age as I and the old man is 40 geez !!! …are you after a sugar daddy or what?!!

If you are serious about moving on, then do so, hang out with people within your own age group, lol cannot imagine how fun it would be to hang out with your “parents” as he’s old enough to be your papa… do stuff with your girlfriends as this will give you the opportunity to go out and maybe meet other guys… kinda of surprised your female friends haven’t said anything to you.. lol if I dated someone that old, omg my girl-friends would be like “WTF has gotten into sammie!!”… “She needs a good smack on the back of the head” etc hehe

sorry to be blunt paris? but babe your 19 and he’s married and with kids, majory of men who cheat when they have wife and kids involved is bang out of order. you may think you love him because way he treats you and etc. but seriously babe, your so young and you really shouldnt get involved with married men! maybe the age gap is lil dogdy but I can’t talk about age gaps. dating/sleeping with married men is a no no. this with affected his kids big time. I have friends who parents have been divorced because of this. he must be using you and is just saying what you want to hear.

I absolutely know how you feel. I am 24 and am in love with a man who is also married and he is 47 with three children; I am also married though, with no children.

I have been fighting my impulses for about a year now. I want to sleep with him, but I can’t do that to my husband or his wife and kids.

Hmm… honestly, if you can tell him that you need to move on with your life and that he needs to confess to his wife what he’s been doing. If not for his wife, for his kids, he needs to tell her.

Sometimes I hate love!!!