How do I tell my parents I want to move out?

ok well heres the situation.

I live in australia and im 17. no im not those immature 17 years olds that say they want to move out because they cant go to parties or whatever. thats just stupid.

I’ve had enough, I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we have found a cheap house to live in,. we have furniture and both have jobs. The reason I want to move so badly is because I cant take it at home any more..

I really think my parents are crazy, here are some examples : my mum yells at me when I buy myself food for work and tells me that she will buy it for me and not to waste my money.. but when I tell her to buy somthing she gives me her hand and asks for the money.

she always tells me that I hate her.. I dont no where she gets it from

she never buys me things or financially supports me in any way. but yet my little sister can get a new pair of shoes each month when I have a pair for two years,

she lies about my boyfriends parents and tells me they hate me and they lie to me.. the stupid thing is my boyfriends mum got both my parents jobs after they couldnt get any for over 5 years!

my mum wants to kick me out at 18. but im not waiting that long

my dad threatens to kill me

my mum cries at any sign of an arguement from me

my mum starts arguments whenever I try to start a conversation with her.

they have told me they ‘don’t have to help me in any way and they don’t benefit from me’

this is only the tip of the ice burg. I cant take this anymore. I don’t stay out late I don’t do drugs I don’t drink I don’t swear I never do anything wrong but yet my mum calls me a bitch I just wont and cant take anymore. so I have a house ready. enough money, enough furniture and my boyfriends parents are supporting us.

the only thing im afraid of is my mum.. she knows how to get to me. as soon as she doesnt get her way she cries and screams and says ‘why do you treat me this way’ im movin out in a week. how do I tell these people who treat me like im a shameful burden

Answer #1

Say to them that your sorry I can’t live here no more,I want to live with my boyfriend.And I am old enough to do so myself.

Answer #2

i like your answer. but what would i say in the letter? ive been trying to think of something for so long! can anyone help out here?

Answer #3

I would def Move Out, I’m in a situation at home that I would move out but can’t financally afford that right now, I’m hoping that a friend and I can get an apartment together when she graduates High School.

If your dad is threating you like that I would call the police, personally. I would not want my sister in that situation.

Goodluck!!!

Answer #4

Hi,

Well, if your Dad threatens to kill you, this is a viable reason to move out..I know in America, the age of majority (legal age you can move out without parental permission) is usually 18, but Australia is a little different.

In most states in Australia the law for people under 17 says that you should be living somewhere safe, where you are looked after. To check the law in your state, see the Lawstuff website ww.lawstuff.org.au (under the ‘when can I?’ section).

The law is not concerned with people under 17 who leave the family home if they have a safe place to stay, money to support themselves and are not involved with illegal stuff, like drinking alcohol, taking drugs, stealing or prostitution.

Since you can legally move out, I would write a letter to my parents and give it to them before I leave. Calmly hand it to them, say you are going to your room, and allow them the time to read and digest it. Words can become too heated in the moment..

Answer #5

yeah, i live in america also, austin texas, and the age that is leagal is 18. but if ur dad threatens to kill u…then i would be out of the house. and ur mom…well, shes probably putting on a act. so if i were u…i would be out of their house and into the one u and ur boyfriend are moving into. i wanna wish you good luck…and dont worrie about what ur parents think…because if they treat u like crap, then just get as far away from them as u possibly can, and if they try to say stuff like, “i supported u all those years” well, did they? or did they not? u tell them how you feel, even if u have to scream it in their face. u have to stand up and be as strong as u can, because there is nothing that someone can do to you that u cant do back. so good luck! and i hope u find the right path, and do what you want to do. =)

Answer #6

okay.. i like the letter thing but that can get bad too.. like my cousin wrote a letter and left it before school started saying she was pregnant.. that was bad they took her out of school that day to yell at her.. but it depends how you write it just tell them that you have been supporting yourself for how long now.. that you have a job i wouldnt say im moving out to live with my boyfriend that might not work too good. they might flip out more.. just explain to them that you are able to take care of yourself and that you need to move out and get what it feels like to live on your own two feet. and if you have to you will come back if anything bad happens just reinsure them that you know what your doing and if something bad happens or you feel your not able to leave you will come back home to them. thats all i have to say.

hope it goes good for you.

Answer #7

just stay home, you’ll be glad you did, your not gonna be able to keep a job with that kind of attitude anyway. Boys are stupid, and he will be out of your life within the year, so don’t bother

Answer #8

geez thats a bit harsh and immature on you part @ shadowb…im also trying to move out but have no clue what to say to my parents…my mom also cries every time we have sum sort o a argument or rather a discussion on my part…I think I’ve reached the age where I just want to face the world on my own terms you know…il also be moving in with my boyfriend and I say do it!!! live your life by taking chances, if you dont ul never know what your capable o!!

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