I Want Him Back

I finally understood what the saying “love at first sight” meant when I met Daniel. He was everything I could ever ask for. We started dating, and we fell in love with eachother the first month. Even though we were terrified of the thought, we couldnt hold in our feelings. He was my first true love. We dated for 14 months, and within that time, we had the best time of our lives. Unfortunatly, around our 11 months I started to become a very jealous girlfriend. He’s a very good looking guy whos a lead singer in a band, and worked at a sports bar. We ended up breaking up because he needed some time on his own to grow up and find out who he was, and my jealously was overwhelming him. It’s been almost 8 months since we broke up, and lately we’ve been talking more often. He took me out to dinner and we talked about our past relationship a little. He told me that he finally got to the point where he needed to get on his own, and he told me he noticed how much I’ve changed, and grown up as well (in which I have learned not to take things for granted and I got over my jealously problem). He also told me he hasnt dated anyone since we broke up. …that might be a sign. As he was walking me to my car, he put his arm around me, and then I put mine around him, and we walked together. …. I miss him so much and it seems like he’s trying to send me signals that he does too, Heres the problem. I’m dating a guy, though not serious, and my ex knows about it- meaning he wont make the first move. I really do like the guy im dating, hes amazing,…but all the old feelings I had for my ex are coming back and it’s all I can think about. God, I miss him so much… and I still love him. What should I do? Leave my currant guy and try to get Daniel back? I want to so bad, but im scared if he denies me… but I’d hate to live with regret. …and if I do try… how should I get him back?

someone please help me…. I need adivse :(

Answer #1

I was in exactly the same position, with one difference, my guy actually cheated on me, after 8 months apart i left the great guy i was with to go back to my ex, it lasted 6 months. But again i should say, he was a total loser. In your case, it sounds like you have 2 great guys, one who you have so many memories with that is playing on your mind and the other who you could start having great memories with. You need a time out! this new guy doesnt deserve someone who has feelings for their ex, he deserves someone who wants to be with them 100% with no doubts, and you are very confused. My advice is to take a time out by yourself to work out what you want. You need to make a decision, it sounds like your ex wants you back but becos you are with someone he wont make the first move, maybe once you tell him you ended it with him he will be more open with you. It sounds like he wants you back, just please, wateva you do, if you end up back with your ex, dont repeat the same mistakes twice! you were jealous, obviously you had nothing to worry about becos in 8 months he hasnt been with anyone, please dont go back and become jealous again if you end up with him!

Answer #2

Do not think that your big love and the following breaking up cannot happen again. Some people just repeat and repeat their life problems during several decades. So I advice you that next time when you meet D. tell him openly that you would not mind to start something more than friendship again, but for a while you do not want to leave your present b/f either. If he ask you why do you think this, you may answer that, because you do not want to repeat all mistakes of your former relationship. For a while it is better to have a little bit loose relationship, and you two will see later how to continue. In this situation you two may have a lot of long and open and deep talks about your feelings etc.

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