How to talk to my ex about my feelings for him?

So many girls have fallen into the same situation as you, only to be taken for a ride. Wounds may dry and heal leaving scars, but a small cut may reopen them and the pain on the old wound is so much deeper.

You first have to remember why the two of you broke up. When you are able to answer that question, it will quicken your memory and make your self esteem and couragecome back. This is important. Firstly, because the mind, after some time, heals, forgets and life goes on. The other vital reason is that this guy knows you depending on how long you stayed with him, he knows what you like, dislike, strengths and weaknesses and he may use them to get back into your life.

He said, he would have to think about it because he said if we got together it would be weird. Sounds like you’ve been “together” for months now! So what hes basically saying is, a commitment would be weird…?

Hun, I hate to break this to you, but hes only using you. I’m assuming you are giving him sex, and thats the only reason hes come back. Its easy to come back to that comfort zone when we want something, and we know we can get it, but someone ALWAYS ends up getting hurt in the process. Being intimate with him, is NOT going to make him fall for you again, nor will it make him commit to you. Hes getting what he wants, so he doesnt need to a relationship with you. Think about it. I know you feel that you are getting closer, and closer, but those are only your feelings. If he really cared for you, he wouldnt be messing with your head. The thing is, that guys can have sex with many girls, and not get their feelings involved, unlike girls. We were just made differently. I don’t think he loves you. If he really, truly did, he would be with you. He would have leaped at the chance to get back together, rather than keeping you on the back burner. These are all things I’m sure you already know, but it’s much nicer and easier to think that he is just confused.

Unfortunately there are tons of break ups out there, don’t let it make you bitter. You have to date around, find out what you want in a relationship, find out what a relationship is really about, before you finally find that one relationship where you won’t break up. It sucks but there’s always hope. It won’t always hurt so badly. Just try to keep that in mind. There is light at the end of the tunnel.