I don't wanna lose her & I want to get her back.

Here’s the deal. I’ve been going out with this beautiful girl for 2 months, Our problems were arguing too much and me being overprotective and she that I was “Too nice to her”. We broke off and it’s been a week, I’ve been feeling so down for those past couple of days and she hangs out with a lot of guys, which is why I am so overprotective because I keep thinking she’ll do something behind my back, maybe I’m just Paranoid and I need to cool off. I’m willing to change my ways because I still love her and I asked her after the summer if we can try to get back together and she said “If you give me the whole summer I’ll think about it”. Problem is, I don’t want to lose her. What if she goes out with someone? What if she kisses another guy and I can’t say anything about it cause I’m just a friend now, but I’m still anxious thinking she could be doing those things and I’ll lose her and I won’t be with her ever again. How can I keep her from getting with a new person and win her back?

Answer #1

The first thing here is that you should learn a lesson from this about being too nice to girls. Three elements of any relationship that cannot be overlooked are respect, friendship and passion, and if any one of them is missing, it wouldn’t take long for the relationship to crash. Being too nice causes her to disrespect you which in the end isn’t good for the relationship. I’d bet that you neva scolded her for anything or even expressed your anger to her.

    Anyways, I think that you should try to get back your life. Do something like pick a new hobby or somethin like that. Meet new girls and try to improve your social networks cus in the end thats what will keep you strong when any girl lets you down. Now to win her back, I suggest that you give her some space. DON'T call or keep any sort of contact with her( that is not to say that If you see her that you should at least say hi, but keep things short and to the point.). After you have gotten your confidence back: ie gotten a new hobby, changed your wardrobe, made new friends and are feeling good generally, then try to reinitiate contact with her. DON'T beg,  no matter how much you feel like it. I believe that If you have improved enough she would at least give you one date. Just prepare urself for the possibility that she doesn't come back. That's why you have to get over her. Wish you the best of luck. If you find this helpful, holla back at me on the funmail.
Answer #2

Well I would try giving her a little space at first. I know it’s hard but try. Then maybe start hanging out with another girl to make her a little jealous. Just make sure you let her know you are still thinking about her when you are with the other girl because otherwise she will think you are completely over her.

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