I cant choose, what do I do?

I would go for him.sorry I know that you love your family but I do agree in the fact that well thats what they are.FAMILY.and they will love you no matter what.sometimes I know it sounds pretty hard but,if you love this guy sooo much then go for him ;) your family is your family but a relationship.. well sometimes it doesnt work so in my opinion I will pick him because your family cant pick your decisions.you do ;)

“the other day she told me that she will never accept him and its going to come down to my family or him..”

That’s not a good sign, a mother’s love and care should be unconditional shouldn’t it? I would probably choose the partner if you believe that strongly in the relationship. You’ve gotten some good advice, that relationships break down though, you have to bear that in mind. For me, although I love my family dearly, I appreciate that they are not my long term future. I’m conscious of the fact that if it wasn’t for the fact that they were my family, I’m not sure I would spend so much time with them, differing personalities and that. I guess you have to weigh up what you are losing to what you are gaining. Talking about the future, if you haven’t moved out already I guess you will one day. And it’s probable that the contact with your family will diminish gradually anyway as you go down whatever path you choose, perhaps with a partner. It’s up to you whether you want such a thing imposed on you I guess.

this is basically your choice, but I would choose my love. but thats only because my dad is abusive and a drunk. and my stepmom is rude and doesnt do anything to help me. but its different for everyone. some people would choose their family, because they think that they are closest to their family and that their family would always be there for them. but some people would choose their love, because their family might just be really rude to them, they might detest their family and they might feel closer towards their love instead feeling close to their family. good luck :]

if you really loved him then you should choose him. because your parents will always love you even if they don’t show it

Yea but we both love each other, and once when it was so bad at home and I wanted to leave, he said he’ll marry me and we’ll live together and I’m hoping to get engaged when I’m like 21 travel the world a bit and get married when I’m 23.. I want to be a young mum and I know what to do its so0o hard when you love someone and your parents don’t allow it…

im in that situation. my dad wont let me date. so im in a secret relationship with my boyfriend. personally, I dont care what my dad thinks, because he doesnt make sense and hes abusive.

yea but she your dad doesnt let you date where as im allowed to date but just not him cause hes not my nash!!! its such a piss off!!! LOL you people aint listening I gave my mum 2yrs to get use to the idea and she still doesnt allow it!!! :(