I am very anxious!

I think you’ve got to look at which battles are worth fighting and which you should walk away from. You have had some difficult times but on the bright side your marriage has survived and your family is growing. Look at what you’ve been through and congratulate yourself and your husband for sticking it out and helping eachother through those times of difficulty. This is admirable and should comfort you now. The bigger issue is the inlaws since this is causing you much stress and emotional pain. I think this issue needs to be adressed as soon as posible which means talking about it with your husband. In my opinion the house isn’t worth it if you can’t enjoy it and are being constantly bothered by them. The best would be to move into your own house, or another family members house and where you could hire your own help or get help from other family members. It is extremely important that your husband supports this decision and this is most probably the difficult part. You have to explain to him your suffering and ask for his help. Possibilities to change your life style (sometimes with a bit of sacrifices) to be happier are there, you just have to want them bad enough. Knowing this in itself should alleviate the feelings of anxiety and stress. Feeling cornered into this situation without an alternative is making you sick and this is what needs to be changed. Take the time to find solutions, and put them into action. Reduce all contact to inlaws to a minimum and avoid dealing with them (let your husband handle them) to protect your health and baby.