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I am a virgin and I want to lose it with my boyfriend. But he has tried but it hurts too much so we stop. What should I do?
ok...obviosuly sex is going to hurt your first time. have him ease in slowly. but mkae sure hes on top. you need need neeed to relax. your legs have to be stretched out with him inbetween them. now you probably already know this im just trying to help. I just recently lost my virginity and I didnt bleed. I found out that some people are born without cherries, or they can get popped doing things like riding horses. the second time I bled a little asuming he obviously popped it but you dont really feel it pop I guess. Have your boyfriend/partner finger you before you guys have sex. that'll loosen you up a bit so it wotn hurt as bad. but you MUST relax when hes first going in.
damnmyheart, you said - 'I dont agree, I lost my virginity to a finger'...
Not possible! You can 'pop your cherry' (break your hyman) with your finger but you would still be a virgin.
Many girls who have sex for the first time no longer have their hymens but the ONLY wany to lose your vaginity, is to have a penis in your vagina. (Sexual Intercourse)
Therefore, you broke your hymen with your finger, you did NOT lose your vaginity to it.
I just wanted to correct that in case it was misleading to others reading your reply.
:-)
Kiasu
that happened to me the first time too, so dont worry about it. The best thing to do is leave the sex for a little bit and get you boyfriend to penetrate you with his fingers. Firstly using 1 finger then buiding up until you begin to feel comfortable wit 2 or 3 fingers. After you boyfriend has done that a couple of times you will soon become looser and easier for him to enter you. Also another way to make it easier is to ensure that you are wet become your boyfriend inserting himself inside you. this should help. It did for me x
ok I have a question. I was at a paty and me and my mate was messin aroud then he starterd to finger me, I have been fingerd once before but I havent hand sex. anyway the day affter when I got home I stared to bleed and it wasent my period because it only lasted one day and it did sting a little when a put the tampon in. does this mean that I've poped my cherry? is it normal to blead the next day?
you should try again it is always better the second time but if it still hurts you should master bate a little cause then you will be used to having things in your vagina ok and dont forget ask your boyfriend to buy condoms cause you are aloud to in stores these days or you can use a dildo but I think you should use you fingers start with one though
I'm still a virgin but I always have this question in my mind: "Am I still a virgin?" even though I'm a virgin, because I don't know how many ways are there to lose your virgin. Because I looked at my hymen, it's hard to describe; if I'm not a virgin the whole is big and it is easy to stick anything in right? If not then it's hard and small right?
Every hymen is different... it may take time... he must go slow... and use lube like sakuraxbloomer said... and in some cases the hymen may need corrective surgery if it is closed to much. If you take a look at this page, you can see all the different types of hymens... there is no explicit pictures (no real images) on this page
Jason
First, have your boyfriend get a condom that is high quality you you get yourself one too to be extra safe incase he dumps you once you get pregnant. So to pop your cherry, just do a lot of exercise that involves running and is will ware(however you spell it) down and break naturally.
Well my first time it did not hurt, but if he goes slow, it should hurt for 15mins after and it might hurt more the day after, but its not that bad.... just wait til you have childern... or like me i have horriftic period pains so i guess it does not measure up ?
There is a lot of question on this question of whether or not you are still a virgin. To loose your virginity, is to have a penis inserted in you vajj. It doesn't matter iff your cherry popps or not, you've still popped itt (: x
briibree123
If you had a penis in your vagina (IE Sexual Intercourse), the chances are that you no longer have your hymen (cherry) and of course, having a penis in your vagina is the ONLY way to lose your vaginity.
Kiasu
There are many ways to break your hymen (Pop your cherry - I SO hate that terminology)
BUT
Just to confirm, the ONLY way you can lose your vaginity is by having a penis put into your vagina.
Kiasu
Well my advice to you is that if it hurts then you shouldnt do it, It just means that your not ready to have sex, your body says "no" and your mind is saying "yes" just go by what your body feels.
I dont agree, I lost my virginity to a finger, (no one laugh) if your looking to pop your cherry, its something that takes time and doesnt always happen right away. sometimes all it takes is rough sex
tell him to take it slow and dont force his way in and gentaly work his way in. if that doesnt work prelubbricate yourseflf with baby oil and this will make it easy for him to slide in
girl I lost my virginity at 15 and it did hurt but dont worry after he pops your cherry it wont hurt so dont freak it will hurt at first but the pain will go away
well tell him to go slow and my friend said that if he fingers u first it will losen u up a lil so it might take sum of the oani away
I have had sex once 3 years ago and I also wear tampons and excercise regularily does this mean my "cherry" is probably "popped" ???
well that happened too me but we just tried again a week after and after two times it was fine and felt great.
use/ buy lubicants they sell in drugstores, that may help
Me and my boyfriend want to do it I'm scared to do it
