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How to overcome obsessive compulsive disorder?

I’m having a long distance relationship, I’m going to see my girlfriend end of this month, and we will be having sex for the first time. I’m feeling anxious. I’m crazy about this girl, and I’m nervous, I want to be her best experience ever. She’s told me about her ex, and how he was the best sex she’s ever had. I can’t stop thinking about that fact. I’m having an OCD experience. At the moment, I’m so in doubt about my abilities as a man to be confident, secure, and in the end, an attractive partner for her to want. I’m in such great conflict, I feel like running away from her. Part of me says, “…this much conflict is not worth it, go back to be single, no one will judge you in that world” Obviously, I’m in bad shape emotionally, and I want to get rid of these useless thoughts before I see her. Any advice, drugs I can take, a herb tea, something that I can use to aid my effort to get back to being “myself”. I don’t want to mess this one up. She could be the “one” for me. I want to give it my best shot, no running away!

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Hi,

You should be able to calm yourself down by reminding yourself that you ARE worth it and you will not mess it up.

Chamomile tea is a great soothing tea. You can see a therapist who may be able to prescribe something if you have actual panic attacks or physical symptoms. Otherwise, just take calming breaths and count to 10 slowly. Breathe in your nose and out your mouth slowly.

Once you see her, you’ll likely be fine :)

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