How to get online girlfriend to willingly move on to second base?

I’ve been dating this girl online for almost a year now. I wanna hit second base next time I see her, but 1: I don’t know how to bring it up and not make us both feel awkward, and 2: I want her to be 100% aware that her opinion DOES matter, meaning if she doesn’t want to go up a notch yet, or feels it’s too early, I will respect that! Does anybody know any good approaches? She isn’t online that often, she’s really shy, kind, and understanding. I only meet her about once a month, and feel lonely. I’ve told her this, and…I…think I might…well…love her. She tells me her life is horrible (I trust her completely) and I don’t want to make anything seem worse, or make her think I don’t care, am trying to control our relationship, etc. How can I convince my online girlfriend that it’s time for us to move on to second base, without forcing her to agree against her will? I’m okay with trying to convince her that it’s time, as long as it doesn’t involve anything that could pressure her! My girlfriend is HER, she has her own role in the relationship, she is a human being, with a sentient mind and emotions, SHE HAS A CHOICE!!! That is the bottom line for me. If one person in a couple wants to get more serious, but the other doesn’t feel ready, then they can’t afford to get serious. Does anybody have any advice? As long as it doesn’t involve forcing her to agree, I’m willing to listen Thanks!

Answer #1

It sorta depends what you feel is second base is exactly… Though since she is offline so often that ya only seem to catch up once a month, I’d not give it too much hope that she feel like going on to the next base.

But all you can do is to ask her directly if she feels like going on to the next level sort of saying. To avoid forcing people all you gotta do is be honest, direct and not use a long time to explain yourself, or else ya gonna say something that could be considered as, manipulation and no feelings are truely worth that.

I believe convincing her it’s is the same as trying to manipulate her… You can tell her that for you it’s beginning to be the time.

Am not sure what else to say than online relationships are not easy, specially the longer you wait for someone…

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