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How to deal with cold and selfish family members?

I am angry and feel sort of empty because everyone on my grandma’s family has been cold and distant from me and my sister since we were kids. As kids they knew we were poor and didn’t have a mom but would act rude to us and not help us out. So my sister and I grew up angry toward them and dont go to their family gatherings. most people on my dad’s side aren’t really helpful and close to me and my sister also and our dad abandoned us. Our mom is unreliable and has barely been there for us. I feel like I really have no family and it angers me that they aren’t there for me when I need them. If you were in my family situation how would you deal with it?

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Answer #1

Yes, I’m in that situation. I don’t get along with my family and I’m treated like as though I don’t mean as much as my siblings because I’m not as talented or whatnot. Just put in the effort and try to speak to them. If it still doesn’t work out… In the future, you can build up your own family.

Answer #2

I agree, you can try talking to them and make the effort to build a good relationship. If they however do not want a good relationship then there is nothing you can do to help that. You have to accept that as a flaw in them, not you and build your family from your sister and friends. You’ll both add spouses and children, who will add spouses and children. Soon you will be surronded by the loving family you deserve.

Answer #3

If I were you I would just go to them and talk. I would say look guys lets just stop. were not little kids anymore. were adults. its no fair that im getting disrespect from you guys. im sorry if I hurt you in anyway. that was the past. so lets try to grow up and act our age. I really wanna try to work this out because I want a normal relationship with you. then go from there. im sure if your honest they will understand. hoped I helped. and btw if that didnt help and there still mean to you try ingoring them. best of luck

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