How do I tell my parents im moving out with my boyfriend?

Here is the situation, im almost 22 years old and I still live at home with my parents… I work with them and live with them, its so annoying to be with them 24/7… I just want to move out and not have them control my life anymore… the other thing is that my boyfriend and I’ve been talking and we have decided that we are going to move in together… I think its the cutest thing ever… but my parents are very religious and they dont really want me to move out and they would hate if I move out with my boyfriend…

We’ve been going out for almost 3 years now and we are sooo right for each other… I know why dont we just get married??? well we want to but not yet… we really have a very good relationship and I think the move will be good for both of us…

Im just concern of how to tell my parents, first of all I live and work with them… they are extremely religious and super strict…

I dont want them to hate me, I know they will but I just want to realize that im growing up and that I am capable of doing my own thing.

ohhh by the way im almost 22 and I have a 12oclock curfew… Arrrg!!!

I dont know how to tell them my decision of moving out with my boyfriend…

Answer #1

Hey,

Cinabuff, I know what you mean. I finally told my parents, I was also very scared. My dad took very well, suprisingly enough and my mum took it not so well, but after a week, she cooled down and told me that she is not fond of the idea but she has accepted it. My parents were just thankful that we were honest and didnt go do it behind their back. So gals, I’m just awesome now. Things are not as bad as I thought they would be. So have faith, be strong, but remember be honest with your parents…it helps…take care

Answer #2

you’re 22, you’re an adult. this may sound harsh but you don’t need to get permission from mommy or daddy to do anything.. legally you can do whatever you want. just sit them down and straight up tell them that you’re thinking about moving in with your boyfriend.. there’s not really any other way you can do it.

Answer #3

Hello ladies. I just wanted to let you know that I have done the impossible - I told my parents that I’m moving in with my boyfriend, and the best part is is that the Earth didn’t stop spinning and a hole didn’t open up and swallow me up. I was SO SCARED to tell them because they are very moralistic. However I would rather be honest with them than sneak around. I’m 28 but it still doesn’t get easier does it? Anyway, I know this is a cop-out but I emailed them first, so that they could think about things before I spoke to them (I.e. calm down). Then I called them the following day and spoke to them. My mom said that they are of course disappointed, but I’m a grown up and they can’t tell me what to do or how to live my life. She couldn’t really understand the point of it because it ‘doesn’t help the success rate of marriage’ but I said it was the most logical step to me. All in all, though they are definitely sad that I chose this situation, they are willing to accept it. I think it is the beginning of the end of the awkwardness. So be strong - this was definitely the hardest thing I have ever had to do, but there comes a point where you need to live the life you want, not the life that other people think is right for you. Good luck!

p.s. Just some background - I have lived on my own and have dated my boyfriend for the past 2 years and I move in with him on January 22nd, so this was not a decision I made quickly or lightly.

Answer #4

I am in the same situation ladies! I don’t know how to tell my parents that I want to move in with my boyfriend. I’m old enough and I’m living on my own at the moment. it sucks that parents think they got a hold on you forever! I want to tell my parents and include them in my life. But what if I tell them and everything blows up? then what? My boyfriend is 100% behind me, thank goodness I have his support! They tend to also worry about what people will say about me and how they “didn’t bring you up this way!’ I really want to do this, I believe I will be much happier and wont be so stressed out anymore! I just hope they understand.

has anyone had a success story yet? please give me some motivation

Answer #5

I completely understand your dilemma. I am in the same situation. I am 23 years old, just graduated from college and living with family until I can find a job. Then planning on moving in with my boyfriend of two years(about a half an hour away). My parents are also super religious and will think it is immoral to live with someone until you are married. Not to mention, :what will other people think?” It is completely ridiculous-in fact it is a great idea if you are serious about the relationship (I think people should live together before getting married to see if they can stand to live together).

Thought it would help you to know someone else understands and is in the same situation. Not sure how to solve the problem. I think it is best to act confident in your decision and to think about what they will say and figure out how to answer all of their concerns before having “the talk”. Good luck, hope it goes gracefully.

Answer #6

Hey! I’m in the same situation been with my boyfriend for 4 years and we have been through a lot together and have talked about marriage and babies for the future. What makes it worse is the my parents are strict christians, over protective and my dad has decided he don’t like my boyfriend.I graduate this summer and have a job.So careerwise I’m pretty much sorted. What makes it worst is that my two older sisters both still live at home and they are 26 and 23. I am the middle child but I know my parents will take it very badly. Any advise?

Answer #7

I’m in the same situation. Im 20 and still living at home and My parents don’t think I should be even going out with guy im with. He has ADHD, but I keep telling them that it dont matter about the looks or disabilities, its whats inside that matters! I’m wanting to move in with him but I don’t know how to tell them.

Answer #8

well I knwo but really dont want to make it awkward at work… I knwo what you are saying about me being an adult and its true… but I really dont want to make it awkward with them at work… thats like the main thing…

Answer #9

this is the hardest decision I have to make at the moment too. my parents are religious and my mother would hate to know im moving out without marriage but you get to the point where you just start thinking bout what you want and not others. by now you probulary moved on with life but I havent and the easiest way for me to tell my parents im moving out is by showin them my engagement ring and say, “hay I want to move in before marriage but im engage and taking it step by step” for sure its tough but parents that love will never stop loving.

Answer #10

Well i am in the same situation to but i am 33 and have a kid already and been divoreced too, im living on my own and been with this guy for a little over a year but my daughter loves him and i love him to and he would ben over backwards for me and my daughter but we r ready to move in together and have alife that we always wanted. we just recently went out of town together and told my dad we where going out of town together and he was oh ok. be careful. then it came time for us to leave that friday and my dad never told my mom anything about us going out of town together. when i told her she blew up and said do u think thats a good idea. I said yeah its ok. im a grown woman and have been sinlge mom for the last 2 and half years and now she wants to stayin control of my life please help me figure a way to tell her that im going to move in with him.

Answer #11

Well i am in the same situation to but i am 33 and have a kid already and been divoreced too, im living on my own and been with this guy for a little over a year but my daughter loves him and i love him to and he would ben over backwards for me and my daughter but we r ready to move in together and have alife that we always wanted. we just recently went out of town together and told my dad we where going out of town together and he was oh ok. be careful. then it came time for us to leave that friday and my dad never told my mom anything about us going out of town together. when i told her she blew up and said do u think thats a good idea. I said yeah its ok. im a grown woman and have been sinlge mom for the last 2 and half years and now she wants to stayin control of my life please help me figure a way to tell her that im going to move in with him.

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