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How do I let him go?

I’ve been in the same relationship for over 3 years. We live together. I love him more than anything. I’d do anything for him. I’m actually becoming obsessive (so sad, I know). How do I deal with that? I love him. He loves me. But he doesn’t like the way I act sometimes. We own a house together. We are engaged. I could spent all my time with him, however, he thinks he needs some time away from me once in a while.. Is that normal?? Of course it is.. Not everyone spends 24/7 with their significant other. Why do I want to be connected to his hip 24/7? Why do I get so upset when he just wants to go somewhere on his own?? Why do I call nonstop if he doesn’t answer the first time?? I know its not normal.. Can someone tell me why I do it? Can someone help me to over come this emotional problem that I have? He comes home to me all the time, he always calls me to say I love you, or hello. He just needs his “guy time” like once a month or every couple months, but that’s even hard on me?? I don’t want to lose him. But everyday, everytime I act like this I push him more and more away. How can I let him go out sometimes, not even on a regular basis, and be ok with it??

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Answer #1

Thanks for the response. It really is hard to separate myself from him. I can openly admit that I am a little over attached. However, what I need is, help to find other ways to side track my mind when he is gone. This site has actually helped. It just shows me that noone is perfect, life doesn’t always go just the way you wanted, and that there are people everywhere with problems, questions, and concerns. I have tons of friends willing to hang out, do something, and lots of opportunities to get out and do something, but I’m always afraid I’ll miss that chance to be with him, even when he’s gone I think, what if he comes home? It helps to have someone to talk with. I know I shouldn’t think this way, and that I need to start living for myself, not him. But how do I do that?? Not sure if anyone can answer that. It’s my personality. It’s just the way I am.. I know what I am doing wrong, I just don’t know how to fix it and make it better..Thanks again for your response.

Answer #2

It sounds like you love him very much. But you have to understand that he has boundaries and needs some alone time. While he’s out having some “guy time” try doing something relaxing like talking to a friend or taking a hot bath.

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