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How do I get out of this lie and still keep my man?

We met online and we starting dating shortly after. I deleted my account since we were talking and texting over the phone and he did too. Later he admitted that he made a new one because people missed him. I was ok with it. Then I hear that he’s flirting with some girls on there and I, like a dummy, made a new one. This time it was an alias. I friended him and didnt tell anyone it was me. it went on for a couple weeks and then he found out. He is furious at me. He called me every name in the book but as I was getting through his anger I could tell he still cares about me and he does love me even though he wont say it at the moment. I love him so much and regret what I did so to get out of the lie I told him that it was a friend of mine from college who was jealous of what I had. He kept saying he knows its me, he’s not stupid and I know that if I tell the truth now that he will never speak to me again and I know that I want to be with him for a very long time. He started to believe me a little as I was telling him my feelings and things like that but how do I get out of this lie without losing him forever?

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Answer #1

I know this sounds terrible but its the truth.

Sometimes the truth is not better than a lie (for instance if your best girl friend askes if she’s ugly, fat, stupid etc your not going to say yes are you? No, because sometimes lying to the people you love is your way of protecting them). If the truth is going to hurt him then maybe your best option is to continue with your story of it being a friend from college.

With that being said though, trust seems like maybe its little (very big) problem. If you do decide to ride it out and try to fix things, you’ve got to trust him. If you dont trust him how can you expect the same respect in return. Tell him how you feel and tell him your concerns about him and other girls. And then back off. Let him show you he can be trusted and vice versa.

Cheers!

Answer #2

just tell him it was you because you know he was flirting with other girls and it made you feel like he was using you so you had to find out if he was cheating on you with some hott chick or something like that but make it seem like your mad at him really mad at him and like you KNOW he’s cheating because he probably is if he is flirting and started up his account again because people “missed” him. he’ll come around if he really deserves you and really loves you. but if it doesn’t work out then he wasn’t good enough and just go on with your life and find a new guy there is millions of them in this wide open sea. :)

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