How do I get away

Ok now my name jakob and am 15 and I was wondering if there was anyway that I could get emancipated from my mom cause she is a druggy and syco the law knows she is I have lived with my mom all my life and she hasnt had a job in like 3 year and has been liveing off my grandma and everyone else and the money that she does get she just spends on pot and she sit here and smokes all the time right in front of me and sits on her butt all the time and some of the time she is my only way to go some where if I have to get there and when she drives she scares the crap out of me and run off the road all the time and I fear for my life with that my mom has a boyfriend that supports us right now but yeah he blows up at me all the time cause I dont help out enough but I do I sit there and when my mom finally gets up and does one thing he yells at me like for ever but yeah my mom sit there and if I even try to bring something up like can you get up and help out he blows up at me and yeah it hurts me soo bad cause he always sits there and takes my moms side and all I do is get yelled at all the time

Answer #1

to the person above,

it’s not good to be in an environment like that.

he doesn’t need this kind of stuff, he’s 15 and shouldn’t have to take care of everyone. he should be taking care of. yeah he can do things himself and I’m sure hes an independant person, but I don’t think he deserves to be treated like this, and “taking charge wont make anything better”

I know what it’s like growing up in this kind of place. it wasn’t my mom who was like this, but my dads sister ( my aunt ) was on anything you could think of drank all the time, when she was sober she was fun but when she wasn’t, she would get into fights with her boyfriend and he would beat her. she would beat me, and try to kill me and her own son.

I have a restraining order agaisnt her now and my cousin lives with his grandparents and his life is so much better then he could of imagined. I think the only thing you need to take control of, is calling the child protective sevrives, or childrens aid and live with someone that will make life worth living.

Answer #2

If it’s as abusive and unhealthy as you describe, child protective services will place you with a relative or foster home. Give them a call.

Answer #3

Call child services, you need out of there. There is nothing healthy about staying in this environment. And please do not “tell that jerk off boyfriend of hers off”. All you’ll end up doing is getting hurt. Child services WILL help you, just call them.

Good luck

Answer #4

Unfortunately the chances of you being emancipated are slime to none. The percentage of minors being emancipated is extremly low. In order for that to actually hppen you would have to be fiancially sound. Meaning you can suport yourself money wise rent , utilities food etc. For the most part the only minors that get that are child actor. I will tell you that what some people wrote already is very true. If that house even for a second is abusive call child services, DCF or whatever version you have. And the other part is start being independant, Iknow at 15 you should have your parents to lean on but thats nopt the case. You can still hold your head up high and start to become a man. So when you actually turn 18 and things have not gotten better you can move up and on.

Jamie in Connecticut

Answer #5

abuse is never a nice thing to be around, when I was little my biological mother let her spouce molest and abuse me and my lil sibling. I think the hospital called social services or my grandparents did, im not really sure, but yeah. I hated going through foster care, but most people have an ok time with it and end up in great familys, I agree with the above people that say to get ahold of the social service office and let them know

and if you cant do that, then let a nighbor or another family member, or even a teacher or friends parents know whats going on, you dont need to live in that

good luck, and if you need anyone to talk to, messege me

Answer #6

start being the man of the house and make your self feel confident. who cares about your mom, if she wants to mess her life up with drugs doesn’t mean you have to. study hard in school and maybe you might get a scholarship and go to college to be a person who helps kids out with the same problem. so tell that jerk off boyfriend of hers to leave you guys alone.

if you like this advice message me later.

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