How do I get an orgasm...a lot of questions?

So my boyfriend and I have been having sex lately and I havent had an orgasm or I dont think I have.what exactly happens when you have one and how do you know your having one?what happens after you have one too?whats the best way to make sure I get one?please and thank you!

Answer #1

I ind that massageing your click, starting slowly and then increasing speedand you ll feel like your on the brink of it and just keep massaging it, maybe try it by yourself first. and after it you ll basically just feel tired and ‘relieved’

Answer #2

lol it’s clit by the way haha

Answer #3

lol it’s clit by the way haha

Answer #4

I’m a guy, so HOW you know isn’t going to be something I can help you with (though I’ll try), but speaking with women, they inform me that you WILL know when it happens and won’t question it.

Anyway, I’ve found that all women have a different SPOT that sends them into an orgasm. The key is to just keep pressing that spot until you feel like your nerve endings are exploding (like when someone tickles your face really light but WAY more extreme.)

As far as sex goes, it sounds like you both are pretty new at it, so its likely he’s having his orgasm way before you really start to enjoy the sex. This is normal and eventually he’ll learn to control his orgasms and focus more on your pleasure. For the moment, you’re probably going to have to start experimenting with yourself so you can tell him what you want him to do.

If he is into oral sex, then wash yourself really well, give the area above your vagina (where the hair grows the most) a nice spray of some sweet perfume and have him go down on you. This is another thing, just because his mouth is down there doesn’t mean its going to feel good. Do your research and locate where your clitoris is (clit). Just when you’re in the shower sometime, grab a mirror and check it out. Play with it a little bit with your fingers and as you get turned on you’ll notice that it gets a little bigger and easier to find. Then teach him how to do this with his tongue.

SOME women can have an orgasm just from people playing with their clitoris, while others either don’t have the patience, don’t experience that extreme of pleasure, or are overwhelmed by the pleasure to the point that it tickles and they can’t orgasm. Either way, its usually a great way to get yourself really wet and turned on. Remember, the more you get yourself turned on, the more likely it is you’ll have an orgasm, so don’t rush to the sex just because HE’S fully turned on.

Next thing you need to do is finger yourself, or buy a dildo and masturbate on your own a little bit. In doing this, and moving the dildo or your finger around inside of you, touching all the walls, you will eventually find a spot that feels better than the rest. This sounds bad but take your fingers and press into the spot as hard as you like (don’t hurt yourself, though) and then wiggle your finger (dildo) up against it. You’ll know you found the sweet spot because you’ll come after just a few seconds of intense vibration.

Remember to play with your clit! Get yourself GOOD and horny so you can BOTH have a nice orgasm. Let him know that the longer he waits and plays with you, the hornier he’ll get and the better his orgasm will get too!

A little hint on finding your spot, I’ve been in a few sexual flings, and three long-term relationships (the last of which is my fiancee) and all of them orgasmed by having me push my finger (or penis) up against the stop of their vagina, about two inches into it, and ramming myself up against that part (some lightly and others very hard, depending what they needed) - as long as they were actually horny they would orgasm in very little time and usually many MANY times after that.

Good luck and remember to train your man to do it RIGHT.

Answer #5

ye thats what i ment lol i was rushing and not thinking lol … w.e

Answer #6

thank you!This was so much help(:

Answer #7

I’m glad to hear it :)

Answer #8

someones a stud ^^

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