What is happening to my sex liiiifffeeeee and my relationship. how do i explain without sounding controlling?

You could offer to watch the videos with him… tell him it would really turn you on to see what he likes to watch. He would probably even like to see you get excited while watching. No need for it to be so private if you’re a couple.

The problem is is that I have. I know exactly what he wants . But the problem is is that he wants me doing all the work, all the time and I just am not into that. He won’t return the favor .

I find porn disgusting. But I suppose that might work in a different relationship

People are trying to help but you turn down there suggestions, there suggestions are the way to fix it so you need to make some sacrafices. Try sitting down with him and just talk about it and ask why he’s doing it so you can fix the problem, communication is key

I wonder if he thinks you’re too conservative? Or too inhibited for his tastes somehow? He’s using the porn for two reasons - variety and quantity. Btw based on all your other posts about him, it sounds like you’re generally fed up with his ways.

You are justifiably unhappy. It sounds like you have made a very good effort and have done all of the things that a woman can do in your situation. You should see a couples therapist. I think that’s your best bet for fixing things.