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What did I do to be treated so poorly?

well, its over. I hate to admit that but it is. the man I loved turned out to be a liar and had no consideration for my feelings what so ever. he told me he never had any faith in the relationship and he wasnt even sure if he wanted to be with me. this hurts so much because I was so committed to the relationship and to making things work and no matter how bad he messed up I gave him chance after chance. I compromised my beliefs and values because I loved him so much and doing this has shredded every ounce of self respect I had. I dont know why I didnt see the signs or how I could have been so stupid but now that its over Im hurting so much. what could I have done to deserve being treated so poorly? if you have any advice for me as to how to get over the pain, how to get back some self esteem or self respect… etc please dont hesitae to respond. thank you Pamela

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Well, the first thing I would recommend is to treat yourself to something that you really want. Do something that makes you happy. You sound like you could use some relaxation right now. Your self-esteem will build itself back up over time, if you don’t let yourself be tied down to a guy like that again. It might make you feel better to start dating again. Nothing serious for now, just dinner and a movie, or something along those lines. Guys have a tendency to lavish all sorts of compliments on someone they’re trying to get with. If that doesn’t make you feel better about yourself, then I don’t know what will. It might be a little bit harder to gain your self-respect back. I’ve been in that situation before, and I had to do a lot of things that I knew “the old me” would approve of. I went back to church and made my peace with God, for starters. And I promised myself that I’d never let myself get that low again. It did take some time, but it worked in my case. Just look back at the things you did in the past, when you still had your self-respect intact. Start doing those things again, and it will come back to you. Hope this has helped a little, at least…

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