How do I forget my past?

I am 18 right now and am in a perfect relationship. I have a boyfriend who I’m sure is the one. Recently, he has been asking about ex boyfriends. In 7th grade, I had a relationship with a guy that wasn’t good. It ruined my relationship with my family. It has taken me so long to forgive myself for that terrible relationship and of course my family forgave me. But now that my boyfriend is bringing the past up, it’s killing me. I hate remember my ex and how I hurt my family. It makes my stomach turn. My present boyfriend has asked about my ex before and I answered him with what I remembered. Last night, he asked a question similar to the previous one and I answered him with something different but I am telling the truth. I have never lied to him. I honestly don’t remember what I had said before and don’t really remember my relationship with my ex. Every time he asks about my ex, he says the story changes and I’m afraid if he asks again it will ruin our relationship because it might change because I don’t really remember every detail. How do I save our relationship? I thought if I lose my memory, my problems would go away. Loosing my memory would save my relationship with both my family and boyfriend.

Answer #1

just be honest with him if you dont really remember tell him that tell him that the relationship was bad that it ruined ur relationship with your family n that u regret everything and that you have moved on n that your relationship with your family is alot better and that you cant member to much cause you kinda blocked off all the memory in order to move on and to get over it

Answer #2

Right now he is barely talking to me. He says he hates when I say “I don’t know” or “I don’t remember” he says when I say those things he feels like I’m hiding something. Sometimes I’ll remember something about my ex but I’m not sure if it really happened so I’ll tell him what I remembered and that’s how the story changes. I’m not even sure if what I told him is what actually happened. I have tried so hard to forget and now I’m trying to remember so I can help my boyfriend feel better but all it’s doing is making things worse.

Answer #3

Right now he is barely talking to me. He says he hates when I say “I don’t know” or “I don’t remember” he says when I say those things he feels like I’m hiding something. Sometimes I’ll remember something about my ex but I’m not sure if it really happened so I’ll tell him what I remembered and that’s how the story changes. I’m not even sure if what I told him is what actually happened. I have tried so hard to forget and now I’m trying to remember so I can help my boyfriend feel better but all it’s doing is making things worse.

Answer #4

just tell him everything you member you know thats all i can think of to do like tell him you tryed hard to forget n thats why you say you cant member cause its the truth

Answer #5

Okay thank you :) I hope we work out. He is leaving in less than a month for basic training and if he leaves not trusting me, we won’t last. But I will try what you said, thank you :)

Answer #6

Okay thank you :) I hope we work out. He is leaving in less than a month for basic training and if he leaves not trusting me, we won’t last. But I will try what you said, thank you :)

Answer #7

Ask him what his trip is because getting worked up over something so insignificant is stupid. It was 7th grade, that was a long time ago. Just tell him what you told us and tell him that it was such a long time ago that you can barely remember every detail. Explain to him that you burried those memories deep and it was a traumatic experience for you. If it’s a “perfect relationship” and you’re sure he’s “the one”, then he’ll be understanding and everything will work out.

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