Feeling distant after sex

Okay, this is a pretty normal occurrence, and there are a lot of people who feel this way as well. Mostly, this happens to men, but there are quite a number of women who feel that way as well. I think for each person, the reason behind this is different.

Some people naturally want their own space after sex, and not want to have anything to do with the other person - be it cuddling or just talking. I suppose after such an intense connection with someone (or maybe the lack thereof), you would want to recover in your own personal space to recollect yourself.

There are also people who become distant because of not very satisfying sex. You subconsciously/consciously feel used, unsatisfied, and possibly frustrated and annoyed, so you just want to get out of there and be done with the situation.

For others, sex is a game purely to fulfill their urges. You’re fully charged and go all out in filling up your sexual quota, and once you orgasm, the game is over, and you want the other person out as soon as possible. And you can have your own space to bask in your glory.

There can be plenty more reasons, far and between, some mild and some harsh, but there is one thing you have to remember: Post sexual etiquette. Yes, you want your space, but it’s no excuse for you to be thoughtless. You’ve just shared an intimate experience with someone, and just turning cold right after is not very romantic, or caring. If you can’t bring yourself to at least give him a cuddle, you need to talk to your partner about it at a later time and explain to him why you behave the way you do, even if you’re not sure why. That way at least he can understand that at least he’s not done something wrong or that you think that his bedroom skills are lacking.