I like this girl a lot

there is this girl and I like her a lot… and we have dated before like 4 years ago and have been friend since… and I started going too her school again and all I can think about is her… and I am pretty sure if I gave it time we would get together… but the catch is… she smokes and I can live with cigarettes… but she does pot every now and then and its annoying as hell… and she drinks because I guess thats the cool thing too do lol… I do neither… and I dont want to try and change her because then I think she will hate me… should I stay friends… or go farther and wait it out and wait for her too grow out of all the bulshit

Answer #1

Why would you go out with someone who smokes pot and cigarettes? Neither of those are cool things to do. I know. I smoked pot for 16 years and all it got me was nothing! Pot makes people lazy and forgetful. As my friend’s Mom said a long time ago, “ Smoking pot makes you stupid. If you want to be stupid go ahead!.”

Unfortunately, we all went ahead. My friend flunked out of the state university. I graduated and never got a good job while I was using drugs. Believe me. It is not cool.

Don’t try to change her, just wait for someone that doesn’t need to be changed. If you get into a relationship knowing you have a project to change her you are setting yourself up for dissappointment and resentment.

You are young, be patient.

God bless you.

Answer #2

I look at it like this why put your happiness aside because of something you can put behind you…

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