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How to deal with a verbally abusive father when mother won't get a divorce?

He’s horrible. I was sobbing last night because of the way they were fighting, and hyperventalating. I can’t deal with his crap anymore, I can’t do it. I want them to split..I feel I’ll never be able to have a good relationship with anyone because I’m afraid they’ll be like him, and I already have bad self esteen and horrible confidence, and I am CONSTANTLY worrying about things like, ‘what if he hurts my dog/cat? What if he hits mom? What if he beats the animals? WHat if he calls the cops and lies, and they have to take the animals away?”

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I mean, I fall asleep worrying, I wake up worrying and it’s ruining my life. If I talk to a counseler, I’d break down. Mom would hate me if I called somebody… help.

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Answer #1

Well I live my brother now because of my parents, so maybe you can do that? Or do some hobbies, stay in your room with the music turned up, whenever they fight go walk your animals, go out with friends/stay at a friends house as much as possible.

Answer #2

There’s no one that lives close enough, and my brother is 8.

I was thinking earlier about hobbies. IS there any that you really like that I could try?

Thank you a lot..

Answer #3

I like to do any form of art work like painting, drawing and such, I also like photography. Maybe you can try those or write stuff?

Answer #4

Try being out of the house as much as possible.. You should talk to ur mom about this.. Tell her what u think about this.. Go live with a sibling. Goodluck..

Answer #5

Spend your time out with friends if you don’t have anybody to be with just start walk as far as you can and be back at the time you sleep just try to avoid them as much as you can or talk to them , like how you feel that will help them to decide what they actually doing , but you must talk to them :l

Answer #6

Move out if youre of age. Thats not something anyone should deal with. Dont talk to him, get police if it gets physical. Just avoid him as much as you can, go to a friends house or something. Im so sorry you hve to live that way. But i can tell you, and i promise things will get so muc better. dont let him destroy you. Dont stop believin!

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