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My name is Teresa in 17 and having sim boy problemos:3 So I have this friend who has a brother named Alex. He's a cutie and we both have told each other that we kinda like one another. We've made out and that's all and I like that. He's also 22 and thinking about moving back to Texas for a little bit. We're friends outside of liking one another so I think that's what really draws me into him. The relationship I feel would be so easy. But he's also told me that he doesn't think he has time for a gf. Then there's tyler. We met online and we hooked up quite a few times but I eventually broke it off because I wanted a relationship and wanted to wait till summer. So now me and him talk a lot and he tells me all the time that me likes me and wants to date me and see me. But I just keep procrastinating because I'm hoping that Alex will come around and want to date me. To be honest I think I want everything Tyler is but I want it in Alex. Let me clarify this, nothing is wrong with Tyler he's sweet and nice and he's definitely cute but he's a jock and has a whole different group he hangs with. Hes also 18 and goes to msu. i guess i just dont know wether i should wait and keep flirting with alex and keep it all normal like it is now and just wait for something or possibly nothing to happen or go with the guy that actually likes me and wants to date me and shit. Help help help.
What a dilemma! Yikes.
Well, Alex, although the preferred guy, has no time for a gf. BUT, he does seem to have time for a make out buddy, huh? If that's what you want as well, then you'll be okay with Alex, and he'll be thrilled to have you whenever he feels like making out. Without having to consider what you want and need- he couldn't care any less. It's what he wants, what he doesn't want to give in return (bf status), and the option of saying bye bye when he feels that he's had enough. Hmm.. does not sound healthy, does it?
I'd say, prepare for heartbreak if you choose to continue to fulfill his needs only. Then again, you could wave bye bye to the 'make out' part of your friendship and see how well he does being your friend then. Just saying...you have options and the power to turn this around. You just gotta know how.
And as far as the other guy goes. Well.. he may be nice and all, but you don't seem to feel the same as he does so don't even bother getting into that. You'll just mess with his feelings like Alex is messing with yours and that won't be right. So yea, no need to make him suffer when you know that you got the hots for the other dude.
It basically all boils down to what you can handle (emotionally). Once you've figured that out, you'll be able to decide to stays and who goes. Good luck!
i would say go with tyler no harm in trying and alex has no time for a gf you said it yourself... and maybe he will think different if he sees you with a bf who knows just what i think
