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Is this the best or worst day of my life?

OK WELL TODAY MY boyfriend THAT I’ve BEEN GOING OUT WITH FOR 2 YEARS WE HAD SEX RIGHT SO THE THING IS I WAS TALKING TO HIM ABOUT IT LAST NIGHT AND I SAID I WAS UNDEICED ON HAVING SEX because I WAS AFRAID OF LOSING HIM REAL STUPID REASON BUT YA SO TODAY I WENT TO HIS HOUSE AND WE WERE JUST HANGING OUT AND THEN WE KISSED AND SO ON WE HAD SEX BUT THE THING IS IM AFRAID OF LOSING HIM I DONT KNOW IF IT WAS THE RIGHT TING OR NOT? WHEN WE HAD SEX WE REALLY DID NT GET TO FINISH IT WAS LIKE MAYBE AND HALF HOUR you KNOW BUT I JUST STARTED TO CRY AFTER AND HE THINKS I HATE HIM WHEN I DONT I ASKED HIM LAST NIGHT IF HE WANTED TO HAVE SEX WITH ME JUST TO DO IT OR BECAUSE HE LOVES ME HE SAID BECAUSE HE LOVES ME IS THAT GOOD? IM CONFUSED REALLY CONFUSED

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Answer #1

Having sex for the first time is a very emotional event, and if you two waited 2 years, you probably had it built up so much in your mind that maybe it was a bit of a let-down. As far as whether it was only a half hour or not - it still counts as sex. In fact, at your young age (I’m assuming) it’s suprising he lasted that long! But in general, and I wish I had a magic pill that I could hand EVERYONE so they’d just know this without having to go through it, bringing sex into a relationship changes everything. Suddenly you have opened up not only your heart and mind to someone, but also your body - and it’s a scary feeling that makes you very insecure. And guess what? Those fears you had before were your mind’s way of telling you that you weren’t emotionally ready to get physical. You need to tell Joe how you are feeling and give him an opportunity to put your fears to rest! He may also be feeling insecure about it - men seem to worry more than women do about whether or not they “performed” as well as expected. If you keep having sex, be protected ALWAYS.

Meg ;-)

Answer #2

Asking a guy if he wanted sex for the sake of sex or because he loves you is like asking a man if he thinks the dress makes you look fat. You can almost bet the answer might be because he doesn’t want to hurt you. He has demonstrated his affection for two years. That speaks lowder than his answer. But if you have a caution about going all the way just to keep him, he is half gone anyway. Don’t try to hold a man by your willingness to be used. Forgive each other for your behavior and help each other be strong and resist the temptation. You can do it and because he realy does love you he will do his part. Good Luck. Gino

Answer #3

It sounds like you are stressing over nothing!! if this guy is willing to wait 2 years to have sex with you then he isnt in the relationship just for sex. When a guy just wants sex off a girl they will put in effort to get it and if they dont get any within a month at the most they will forget her and try someone else. This guy has been with you for 2 years!!!! he doesnt just want to have sex and leave you so you need to stop stressing out.

Answer #4

mkay. he LOVES YOU. but you should talk to him about it, if you were afriad of loosing him TELL HIM THAT.

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