How can I ask out a girl I've seen for awhile?

well i have noticed this girl in walmart in my home town. and she is really pretty. and i have seen her for a long time now. i know that we have locked eyes plenty of times before and i have went up to her before but only for wire transfers. i really like her. and recently i went in to walmart and we locked eyes right away and i wanted to smile but i just couldnt do it. i feel like im gonna scare her. i dont want that. but i wanna smile at her becuz she beautiful and im attracted to her. anyway i went and made my purchase and i was mad becuz i wouldnt get anywhere near her station when i head out. the door is closer. and i really wanted to try and speak to her. or even smile. but when i turned around she was right there at the door waiting. she was right there and i couldnt believe it. i walked and i didn’t evn look at her. i wanted to and i had the best opportunity to ask her out while she was alone atleast. she was right there like maybe she likes me and wanted me to talk to her. but who knows i cant assume that. it most likely was a coincidence. but ill never know. i plan on going in there again soon and i have planned on finally approaching her and talking to her. i think i wanna just ask her out for lunch sometime to hang out as friends and i do mean friends. i wanna do this slow and i am really determined to do my best to make it work. but i have to ask her first and not get ahead of myself now. i have major confidence issues and low self esteem and i have never dated a girl before ever and im 20 years old. i get made fun of all the time at my work i act like i dont care but i do. this girl is very attractive to me and i wanna give it a try and go for it. any advice for me about other things i could do or if i am doing anything right her or going about this the right way. let me know thanks.

Answer #1

well i went into walmart tonight and when i got done i saw her and i froze and went blank. i just walkd out becuz it was to much for me. i cant’ believe this i had it all set to go and i just couldnt do it. its too embarassing to get rejected and its not worth it to me. idk what else to to now

Answer #2

Well, your best bet would probably be to go up there causally and introuduce yourself. Like they said, first impressions mean alot. Then, just get to talk to her and if things go well ask her out to lunch or something. Nothing to big, like you said, you would like to take things slow, which is a good idea. Or, maybe if not going out to eat, maybe asking for her number. Thats something else you can do. By the way I look at it, I think she does like you. So I would go for it. Just take things causually and don’t act nervious.

And, make sure your yourself, dont try to be anyone your not. Girls dont like that. Be nice, kind, and respectful. Wow, I really hoped I helped any. If you have any other questions, just ask. I’ll be glad to help. =]

Answer #3

Aloha,

I would say that you are going about it the righ way..just be nice and respectful about it …may be give her you number or better yet e-mail eachother a bit..if you click then you click if she does agree to go out to lunch with you don’t go any where to fancy…Not good to try and impress a girl o the first date or just as frineds some girls like it and then some don’t…good luck if you need any thing fun mail me.

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