A really big mistake

ok. one thing to make a guy think that THEY have no hope, is for you to go up to him, and say ‘I’m sorry, I was stupid and I made a mistake, maybe you’ve never made one, but I did. I tell you what though, it’s not one I will make again. if there is no chance of us getting back together, then I will respect that and leave you alone. I promise I won’t call anymore, text or anything, I was only doing it because I thought there was some hope’

this is a bit of a bluff (but it’s worked for me loads!) you’re telling him

1. that there is life after him.
2. that you have learnt from your mistake.
3. that IF he shrugs you off this time, then that’s it ‘deal or no deal’ so the respoinsibiltiy is then on him.
4. you’ve given him an ‘opening’ for him to contact you (when he realises what HE’S done)
5. your highlighting and reminding him of the regrets he has.
6. and your showing him your dealing with this in a mature way, as appose to the dumping.

however, it is a gamble. but in reality, do you really want to be chasing him? and if a guy is not prepared to understand that we all have bad days, then huh? however, why did you dump him? you may have been trying to ‘test your relationship’ subconciously and it’s backfired…

all I know is that keep calling him, and he’s going to get really annoyed with an obsessive ex (which is what you’re being) and your actions will only push him further away.

you need to stop regardless, and if he doesn’t get back in touch with you, you are just going to have to live with your decision, no matter how hurtfull.

but closure hunny, you say what I said, and it’s closure, and at least you’ll be able to hold your head up high! you dumped him for gods sake, have some respect that you hurt him and he doesn’t want risk that again…

good luck, and next time recognise what you had before it’s gone :(