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My girlfriends (just started dating) ex was very affectionate in the way that he'd make her dinner, take photo booth pictures and etc. I like this girl and i want to be good for her but i feel as if I'm competing and i want to make things special not like oh well... i want to give her attention but the difference with the ex is that he lived fairly close if not neighbors and his relationship with the parents were good. i mean I'm the new guy and we don't live to far away but it just seems akward to do these things as if she already lived them and i don't want that,
Well, maybe I am a bit out of touch with modern standards of sizzling romantic liaisons, but personally: I would not class:
• making dinner; or • photo booth snap shots; • and etc.;
as being amongst the more significant criteria defining a "... very affectionate ..." relationship.
The guy you are referring to is her EX., for goodness sake!
And for very good reasons, amongst which, I would hazard a guess that:
the dizzying heights of his bewildering affection were limited to little more than cooking and low resolution photography.
You need to do better than that, and if you hope to surpass the pitiful standards of a jilted "affectionate" ex., you need to beguile her with more substantial tokens:
for example: tell her often how much you love her; dance with her under a moon-lit sky, send her flowers, or even present her with a nicely packaged twelve-inch rule, as a measure of your outstanding affections.
You are not your GF's ex-. You shouldn't try to be him. Trying to be something you are not is not a good long term solution; it will work in the short term while you are on your "best behavior" but eventually the real you will come out. You must have some qualities that your GF likes. It could be your sense of humor, your respect for her, your integrity, your loyalty, your conscience or whatever. I'm not saying you shouldn't show affection; you certainly do need to make your GF feel loved, respected, and appreciated but the way you do this should be unique to you. Instead of trying to be a better version of her last BF you should just try to be the best you.
Just be yourself and do the best you can to impress her and be kind to her.
When it all comes down to the nitty gritty, ourselves is who we are gonna be.
Comparing yourself to her ex is just going to cloud your mind and mess things up for ya.
She isn't with him anymore and likes YOU...............so just be you.
Instead of worrying about weather she likes YOU or not...............focus on weather you like HER or not.......and if the two of you can do this thing.......no matter how hot she is.
It takes two to make it happen..............everything from communication to everything else.
Remember, there's a reason he's the ex and your not.
