help with my 8 yr old

Kids can be quite mean. If he is a little overweight than that may be justification to them to tease him.

He needs to start an exercise/activity program that will help him feel better about himself.

He needs to realize that when other kids tease him he should just ignore it because THEY are simply demonstrating their ignorance and lack of respect for others, but that he shouldn’t negatively react to them because that just brings him DOWN to their level.

Try to get him doing things that he enjoys and excels in. That will help him with his self-esteem and with the realization that it is what HE thinks about himself is what’s important.

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Could your son possibly be trying to make those kids feel the way he felt when he was picked on? A lot of people say “If I was stronger I’d make the people who hurt me regret it”. Does that make any sense? It could be that your son has developed a taste for revenge. He just needs to learn how to forgive and forget, now that he’s shown that he can defend himself. He may also be afraid to let his guard down in case he’s bullied again. You should sit down with your son and get him to realise that bullying the bullies will only make a person more bitter. You may also want to help your son get his social life back on track, maybe by getting him to join a youth club or activity programme that he might enjoy with other children, preferably with children that he doesn’t know very well. This way he can start his social life with a clean slate and make new friends. I hope this will help you and good luck for you and your son. =o]

Hmm we’re just going through this age group in class, although if the behavior is only in school I dont know what to suggest. Try a therapist, aggressive behavior isnt something you should just ignore…

wow, I feel your pain! I would like to talk to you about this more and in depth, but it is late and I have only just found your question as I have just joined. you need to hang in there and trust your methods for now, your a good mum, I can tell. I will get back to you soon with some helpful advice that I have come across over the years, I have a child in a similar situation and might be able to help you with advice and contacts